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Typical (Non) Relationship Stuff, I Assume
 
# 16 : Saturday 22-7-2017 @ 18:41
 
 
Too much strategy
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# 17 : Saturday 22-7-2017 @ 19:13
 
 
Someone said :
Too much strategy

I think so too. Life happens and overthinking it makes it overcomplicated.
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# 18 : Sunday 23-7-2017 @ 14:04
 
 
Some people like you, some people don't, maybe drop the hand if he likes you he will let you know. Just enjoy the dates and don't let the one that got away get to you.
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# 19 : Sunday 23-7-2017 @ 14:27
 
 
Someone said :
Some people like you, some people don't, maybe drop the hand if he likes you he will let you know. Just enjoy the dates and don't let the one that got away get to you.

HAHAHAHA

Is that what "not overthinking it" looks like?

gas
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# 20 : Sunday 23-7-2017 @ 15:20
 
 
Someone said :
was my response to Sugar tits removed by a moderator, (possibly because it was offencive) or did I just forget to click "send" on the message?

Why would it be offensive? He's clearly not interested and you should recognise that. Never chase after guys who are not interested. It's a waste of time and emotional energy.
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# 21 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 02:02
 
 
Got it that time


Listen Sugar tits, you;re not reading the situation correctly, you don't know the full story. Don't presume things.
And don't be so rude and disrespectful.
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# 22 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 02:11
 
 
I wasn't rude! You were the one calling me a cunt and to eat shit.
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# 23 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 03:13
 
 
@ Sugartits, you started it.
I don't think you're a polite person. Try harder to be more respectful when chiming in on topics about other people's personal experiences.

If I see you making an effort, it'll be easier for me to take you seriously, and I'll be less likely to respond with obviously outrageous insults posted to do nothing other then prove a point, screw up the topic, and waste everybody's time (moderators included, which I hereby apologize to them and them only, for).


@ the other, more civil, responses.

You guys say "don't over think" "don't over analyse", but what does that mean? (asking sincerely)

I would have thought "Sure we'll leave him so" after the missed date, was grand. No complications, if he's THAT interested he'll text or something.

But no.
I somehow "abused him" by not contacting him for four months, and how dare I treat someone like that who has a crush on me, and who I know suffers from social difficulties.

I did send the message out of the blue, yes, but to be fair it was the first ever Mayo Pride; I contacted people I haven't seen for years to see if they would be there.


All of a sudden, this guy is like "where the hell have you been!?"
"I deleted your contact because you abandoned me",
As if I signed up to be the 'secretary' of his interest in me and had neglected my duties, and that he had a right to be angry with me for that?


At any rate, I've erased his contact. If I see him in real life I'll wish him well, but...
it's just not for me.
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# 24 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 10:05
 
 
I started it? Aw cupcake! I'm sorry! I should have sugar coated it for ya bbz.
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# 25 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 13:59
 
 
In my experience this stuff doesn't happen with people who are genuinely interested in you. I eventually worked that out when I was 30 after years of chasing after eegits that had no interest in anything other than a quick shag. I think I just stopped caring and then out of nowhere I met my partner. And the first six months were really nice and easy with no game playing.

So I don't know, maybe you should just relax a little more and try to enjoy being single more.
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# 26 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 16:30
 
 
Someone said :
I started it? Aw cupcake! I'm sorry! I should have sugar coated it for ya bbz.

Nope, that would be condescending , which is a different kind of rude.

I get the feeling that you genuinely don't know how to be respectful to other people. All I'm saying here is, I'm not going to take you seriously as a person, unless I see you make an effort.



In my experience this stuff doesn't happen with people who are genuinely interested in you. I eventually worked that out when I was 30 after years of chasing after eegits that had no interest in anything other than a quick shag. I think I just stopped caring and then out of nowhere I met my partner. And the first six months were really nice and easy with no game playing.

So I don't know, maybe you should just relax a little more and try to enjoy being single more.

Just to clarify the situation; I do not like this guy but we do have mutual friends, will you (the collective you) please get out of this mode of "stop chasing him, stop over thinking it".
I'm not seeking to date this guy.
I'm not seeking to mend things.
I don't have a crush on this guy.

My problem here is, I've just text someone out of the blue, to discover I've been apparently "ignoring them" to the point of psychological abuse, for 4 months (like, WTF??).

He had a crush on me, yes, but I did more then what was expected of me to give him a chance and he got used to me running around helping him to date me, and helping him to keep in contact with me and he's pissed that I stopped doing this and "took the safely wheels off".

I just want to know, is it a fair enough to tell any mutual friends to "fuck off" if they start a shit storm of "how could you treat someone like that?", "I though you were better then that Greenmanpp", "you're always talking about treating people with respect, and then you ditch this guy for months?".
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# 27 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 18:39
 
 
Someone said :

Nope, that would be condescending , which is a different kind of rude.

I get the feeling that you genuinely don't know how to be respectful to other people. All I'm saying here is, I'm not going to take you seriously as a person, unless I see you make an effort.

Just to clarify the situation; I do not like this guy but we do have mutual friends, will you (the collective you) please get out of this mode of "stop chasing him, stop over thinking it".
I'm not seeking to date this guy.
I'm not seeking to mend things.
I don't have a crush on this guy.

My problem here is, I've just text someone out of the blue, to discover I've been apparently "ignoring them" to the point of psychological abuse, for 4 months (like, WTF??).

He had a crush on me, yes, but I did more then what was expected of me to give him a chance and he got used to me running around helping him to date me, and helping him to keep in contact with me and he's pissed that I stopped doing this and "took the safely wheels off".

I just want to know, is it a fair enough to tell any mutual friends to "fuck off" if they start a shit storm of "how could you treat someone like that?", "I though you were better then that Greenmanpp", "you're always talking about treating people with respect, and then you ditch this guy for months?".

1 I know you dont like sugartits. In this case I think you completely overreacted only going by this thread (including the recycle bin)
2 I dont understand this thread. You asked for advice. You were given advice. You tell everyone to stop giving you advice and ask for advice on something else.
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# 28 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 19:31
 
 
1 I know you don't like sugartits. In this case I think you completely overreacted only going by this thread (including the recycle bin)

Why do I have to be an English teacher ever time I post of this forum?

Look,
There is a difference between disliking someone, and finding someone rude.
I sometimes find my friends rude, but it doesn't mean I dislike them.
I never said any where that I disliked Sugartits, you implied that dislike. I was just countering a post I found unreasonably rude, with an unreasonably rude post of my own.
If you want to know if I dislike Sugartits, you can say "Greenman, do you dislike Sugartits?"
You don't just "assume it, becasue I said curse words".

2 I dont understand this thread. You asked for advice. You were given advice. You tell everyone to stop giving you advice and ask for advice on something else.

Largely, the advice I received focused on an aspect of the question that was incidental ( http://bfy.tw/D0SP) to what I was seeking advice on.

And to be honest, if the previous post doesn't make it clear then I've had enough of the topic, thanks but no thanks; the advice stinks and you're not the wise council of sages I mistook you for, and I won't make the mistake of presenting anything to you for discussion again.
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# 29 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 20:39
 
 
Someone said :

I would have thought "Sure we'll leave him so" after the missed date, was grand. No complications, if he's THAT interested he'll text or something.

But no.
I somehow "abused him" by not contacting him for four months, and how dare I treat someone like that who has a crush on me, and who I know suffers from social difficulties.

I did send the message out of the blue, yes, but to be fair it was the first ever Mayo Pride; I contacted people I haven't seen for years to see if they would be there.


All of a sudden, this guy is like "where the hell have you been!?"
"I deleted your contact because you abandoned me",
As if I signed up to be the 'secretary' of his interest in me and had neglected my duties, and that he had a right to be angry with me for that?


At any rate, I've erased his contact. If I see him in real life I'll wish him well, but...
it's just not for me.

It seems you have sorted the issue. (losing your temper with us in the previous post, hmm)

Now that I have a clearer picture of what is going on, my question is this...

The guy who had a crush on you and has unrealistic expectations of you... wasn't being fair to you. You do not have to bend over backwards for him. He's not respecting you. Why should you respect him, especially after his accusations, which don't sound that balanced, tbh.

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# 30 : Monday 24-7-2017 @ 21:00
 
 
Someone said :
And to be honest, if the previous post doesn't make it clear then I've had enough of the topic, thanks but no thanks; the advice stinks and you're not the wise council of sages I mistook you for, and I won't make the mistake of presenting anything to you for discussion again.

to be honest, you have to bear some of the blame for this as you were unclear when explaining the problem.
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