LOL Marcel! She's already a fixture of Gaire!
Really and truly, you've put in a lot on Gaire, Kaja. As the clichÃ© goes, you get out what you put in.
As for myself, it only took me a few days. People did not know me then, but I liked the site and contributed accordingly, as I saw fit.
The trick is not to invest too much emotionally. It is only a site, after all.
There is a lot of good internet banter which I enjoy. However, sometimes people have their off days and become right grouches and bite. (you saw this and liked it.)
It is good to meet people from the site, that's true. The Gaire meets, or meeting people amongst yourselves, all is good.