Casual sex is not what the thread was about, but sure we will overlook that for ya

Its about caual something

Is every first shag not a test drive?

I mean, you get around to the shagging and you KNOW if it's on or off based on it. Simple as. If there's no sexual chemistry you may as well sling yer hook.

Let's take John as an example, as I would not give a personal example, for obvious reasons.

John is going out with Peter, a boring lawyer, Mark, a hot brick-layer, and Steve, an average looking student.

For the past 6 months, John has been going out with them 3, sharing week-ends and holidays. Even sharing a night 2 days a week.
John is not sure that he even loves any of the 3 but he reckons that Peter might be a good party, Mark a hot date, and Steve might develop an emotional connection as they are similar. He likes them, but no spark exists at the start.

John wants to settle, either with the best match, or the best party, He is not romantic, he knows what matters in a relationship but could never find it in the same person.

Once he has chosen, he will either stay with only one of them, or none of them.
He never lied to them, but they do not necessarily know about the other 2. Only mark knows.
He never committed, or made serious plans. The others know that they are not technically exclusive, but they would introduce him as their boy friend when socializing, and he may have met the parents of Peter and Steve.

He will only introduce them to his parents if and when he has chosen.

Sometimes you know there is sexual chemistry BEFORE the first shag. It can be apparent in the first snog, never mind shag. Correct, sometimes the first shag is a huge disappointment.

First shag constitutes a relationship? Jeez bunny boiler

Could this 'test driving' be better known as dating? I've dated guys knowing there is absolutely no future but I enjoyed it for what it was.

Excellent point, Elat. Dating, no problem. Test driving, no.

isn't it the same thing?

I urge everyone to read this post in a Move Trailer voice... it sounds like a great romantic comedy!

A first shag may act AS a test drive.
But I am talking about something done on purpose, knowing you are doing it. Not just an impulse one acts on.

When you test drive a car, you know you are trying it, and that you will need to check some boxes before buying it. You could go with your gut feeling, but it is not necessarily what you expect from a test drive: you intend to compare qualities and advantages of different models.
Maybe the one you like the color and feeling of is a gas guzzler.

You may end you disregarding the feelings, if something matters more to you.


Not the same thing.
A date can be the way someone decides to test drive. Just like a first shag can be the way someone decides to test drive.
But not everyone who first-shags or dates see it as a test drive.

And most test drives are more complex that these basic techniques.

You funny fucker.


I was taking it in the context of the first post, it seems like blah is talking about seeing your potential victim as relationship material...

bingo!


and intrepid...pull in the claws.


why? do you not have sex in relationships?

Polygamy I know this is biopic why not go for a foursome and have a test race.

Now I think of it like that, you have a point. However, when I first read the OP and thought about it, I was thinking of people playing games. 'Not sure, but entering into relationships with them just to see ..."

When you date people, you are not necessarily in a relationship with them.