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# 46 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:00
 
 
Where is the line between talking about someone, as in telling the news and gossiping?
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# 47 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:03
 
 
Someone said :
Where is the line between talking about someone, as in telling the news and gossiping?

When you get a little bit of pleasure by adding on some details that aren't really necessary to the story. Your voice will probably be lower and you'll look a bit like this...

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# 48 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:17
 
 
Someone said :

When you get a little bit of pleasure by adding on some details that aren't really necessary to the story. Your voice will probably be lower and you'll look a bit like this...


Done wronnng aughta be punished....oh very well i'll ave a light sherry

(also if you start quoting scripture be very afraid!)
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# 49 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:20
 
 
Gossip is a from of discourse, and malicious gossip is usually shrouded in terms of modality, heresay and scandal. By modality I mean 'she could have' or 'he maybe has' or 'she might have' - all to often these terms become 'she did'....

Gossip hinges not on what you're talking about, but the way in which you are talking about it.

There are certain people I know on this site whose 'personal currency' is information gleaned about other people.
And I've heard that these people will mail newbies with 'factual stories' about other members, this not too long after the newbies join up. I guess its a way of getting newbies on their side or becoming their friend.
But it just doesn't seem to me that someone who has to make friends that way could be a very nice person; well, the question has to be asked.. why can't they make friends in a more regular and less harmful manner?
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# 50 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:29
 
 
Someone said :

There are certain people I know on this site whose 'personal currency' is information gleaned about other people.
And I've heard that these people will mail newbies with 'factual stories' about other members, this not too long after the newbies join up. I guess its a way of getting newbies on their side or becoming their friend.
But it just doesn't seem to me that someone who has to make friends that way could be a very nice person; well, the question has to be asked.. why can't they make friends in a more regular and less harmful manner?

Ironically PC, that part of your post reads like gossip!
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# 51 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:31
 
 
Someone said :

Ironically PC, that part of your post reads like gossip!

I did actually think that after I'd posted it Cee Dee!
And then I thought; No, I'm not actually saying any person's name so ....
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# 52 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:47
 
 
well I try to steer clear of spreading it

But I will admit I love to hear it.

While many forms of gossip are relatively innocuous, gossip has the potential to ruin lives and reputations. For this reason, it is usually a good idea to double check all types of information regarding other people before passing it on to another individual.

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# 53 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:52
 
 
Someone said :
well I try to steer clear of spreading it

But I will admit I love to hear it.

Who doesn't? However, I agree spreading gossip can in the long run turn out to be a malicious exercise, as gossip tends to suffer from the chinese whispers effect, as pointed out by Perry there. When the victim of the gossip eventually hears it and they try and chase it back, it's not surprising that people get accused of saying the most horrendous things and they really have no comeback as they shouldn't have been at it in the first place.
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# 54 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 14:55
 
 
The best one on here had to be the one about the lecturer who supposedly got 'fired' from a Dublin University, when in fact all they had done was switch jobs to go work at another University.

I mean; come on gossipers... do yous not think out your gossip first. If someone got fired from a University, they're hardly likely to get hired by another one.
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# 55 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 15:14
 
 
Someone said :

And then I thought; No, I'm not actually saying any person's name so ....

That's a poor excuse, I can say things in a certain way that would imply who I'm talking about without ever saying their name, does that mean I'm talking about them?
I get very annoyed with people who imply things and when you call them on it they do that "but I didn't say anything" excuse.
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# 56 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 15:19
 
 
A certain doctor injected a certain something into a certain musician.

Everyone who is up on current affairs would know which doctor did it to which musician and what happened.

No names.
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# 57 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 15:23
 
 
Someone said :

That's a poor excuse, I can say things in a certain way that would imply who I'm talking about without ever saying their name, does that mean I'm talking about them?
I get very annoyed with people who imply things and when you call them on it they do that "but I didn't say anything" excuse.

I don't think people can infer those I was talking about.

However, if people are unhappy, I will ask a mod to delete that section of the post.
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# 58 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 15:23
 
 
That's exactly what I mean Intrepid, but you mentioned no names so can't possibly be held accountable for your statement.
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# 59 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 15:24
 
 
Someone said :

I don't think people can infer those I was talking about.

However, if people are unhappy, I will ask a mod to delete that section of the post.

I'm not unhappy, I just want to know who you're talking about
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# 60 : Sunday 23-8-2009 @ 15:25
 
 
Someone said :

I don't think people can infer those I was talking about.

However, if people are unhappy, I will ask a mod to delete that section of the post.

I'm not unhappy by the post Perry, it just raised a good point in this topic, "if you mention no names is it still gossip?"
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