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When Is It A "Relationship"?
 
# 1 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:08
 
 
A friend of mine had a status update which asks:
How long should you be dating someone before you can officially call them boyfriend/girlfriend... what is the 'criteria' you go by?

Now, she was asking in terms of straight relationships. Here, on Gaire, I'm going to broaden the scope a bit to include ALL types of relationships.

There are plenty of people who have 'f*ck buddies', and would not say that they were 'girlfriends/boyfriends.'

Similarly, in open relationships, some people are not the 'official partner', and so on.

It is totally different for a teenager as opposed to an adult. The criteria differs according to the people concerned.

How long would you be seeing /sleeping with the other person before deciding on it being a relationship and being partners?

What are the criteria you would go by?

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# 2 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:10
 
 
If you have to ask - its not!

you will know when it happens!
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# 3 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:12
 
 
That to me, is a recipe for heartbreak, is it not? One person may feel it is a relationship, but the other person does not feel the same way, and imagine the chaos that ensues after the first person introduces the second person as his/her partner.
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# 4 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:14
 
 
This is one I'm pondering myself. I've started to see someone and I'm wondering how this will pan out. It's been very fast. I only met him on friday but we have amazing chemistry and spent the entire weekend together. He's already rang me twice today. I'm a bit shocked to be honest! We said we'd see what,so am just I curious as to when it's considered to be a relationship. We were joking about it yesterday.He said after the third date so I said I can do whatever I want until then? he said you can but you'd better not. It's all a bit mad.
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# 5 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:16
 
 
I would think it's after you've both talked about it, regardless of how long you've been dating/sleeping together.
I couldn't just introduce someone as a girlfriend without confirming it's official with them first. Because to you it might seem right but they might think you're going too fast or that you're a complete loon
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# 6 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:28
 
 
The real qustion here is...

When is September over?
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# 7 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:32
 
 
3 months at least before the boyfriend chat.

6 months at least before you change your facebook status. How many times have we seen someone change their facebook status to in a relationship after 2 weeks. Then 2 weeks later it is back to single.
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# 8 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:33
 
 
probably when no one else will have ya as they think ur taste is up ur hole
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# 9 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:35
 
 
Someone said :
3 months at least before the boyfriend chat.

6 months at least before you change your facebook status. How many times have we seen someone change their facebook status to in a relationship after 2 weeks. Then 2 weeks later it is back to single.

thats not a relationship, it is only a shag.
You need time before these things happen, unless it is instant love at first site of course.
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# 10 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:38
 
 
when ye are both comfortable usin the bathroom together thats when its a relationship, and i dont mean both brushing your teeth at the same time :P pooping while they shower/brush teeth/shave = relationship :O
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# 11 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:40
 
 
Someone said :
when ye are both comfortable usin the bathroom together thats when its a relationship, and i dont mean both brushing your teeth at the same time :P pooping while they shower/brush teeth/shave = relationship :O

What if you did that before going out the first time
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# 12 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:43
 
 
Someone said :

What if you did that before going out the first time

Well that happened on saturday morning. The door to the ensuite hadn't closed properly and well there he was. Does that mean I'm in a relationship?
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# 13 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:43
 
 
Someone said :

Well that happened on saturday morning. The door to the ensuite hadn't closed properly and well there he was. Does that mean I'm in a relationship?

Only if you liked it.
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# 14 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:48
 
 
Well for me it wasn't the highlite of the weekend but there ya go!
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# 15 : Monday 14-9-2009 @ 19:57
 
 
Someone said :
Well for me it wasn't the highlite of the weekend but there ya go!

due to censorship rules we have to warn you of any explicit details of your dirty weekend
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