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Best Friend Threatening To Out Me!
 
# 1 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:14
 
 
I am a 17 year old guy. I can barely accept being gay myself. I don't really like it at all. I hate whoI am over it. On in November I was talking to my best friend and I basically told him I was gay thinking he would be supportive. The words I am gay never came out of my mouth though. Ever since then he's being using it over me. He kind of black mails me. He makes me do work for him and he makes me say stupid comments in class. He says if I don't he'll tell everybody that I'm gay. What should I do? To be honest he's my only friend really! I'm just so sick of my life.
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# 2 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:23
 
 
Well this guy doesn't seem to be your friend at all!

Have you told him to stop it? It could be taht he doesn't realise how what he's doing is wrong.
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# 3 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:26
 
 
Have you access to any support? Do you know any other gay people?
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# 4 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:27
 
 
Someone said :
I am a 17 year old guy. I can barely accept being gay myself. I don't really like it at all. I hate whoI am over it. On in November I was talking to my best friend and I basically told him I was gay thinking he would be supportive. The words I am gay never came out of my mouth though. Ever since then he's being using it over me. He kind of black mails me. He makes me do work for him and he makes me say stupid comments in class. He says if I don't he'll tell everybody that I'm gay. What should I do? To be honest he's my only friend really! I'm just so sick of my life.

To be honest, he's no friend at all!
That's not the behavior of a friend.
He's using you, no, abusing you.
Tell him to go fuck himself.

Contact Belong to

http://www.belongto.org/group.aspx?groupid=4
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# 5 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:28
 
 
Yeah as Frodo says, just tell him that he's really upsetting you and hopefully he'll back off. If not, then put some distance between you two, sit elsewhere in lessons, or maybe ask to be moved to a different class.

Also work on your confidence and making new friends, so that you're not so dependent on his company.

Cork has a great LGBT youth group

http://www.gayyouthcork.com/
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# 6 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:38
 
 
again...

what everyone else says - basically he is not even close to being a friend - i think we all appreciate what u are going through - admitting u are gay to yourself is a huge huge first step - it is very unfortunate that u chose to come out to somebody who has abused ur trust - naturally he is very immature and maybe he is finding it difficult to adjust to having a gay friend - regardless - get onto the local gay youth groups - there are some wonderful LGBT folk out there - they are sincere, supportive and will have a shared history that will let u know that u are not the only one - there are some fantastic ways to explore your developing feelings online in a safe manner.

best wishes and welcome to gaire!
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# 7 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:42
 
 
Someone said :

Cork has a great LGBT youth group

http://www.gayyouthcork.com/

He sounds like a bit of a prick and the way I see it you have 2 options, out yourself which you don't want to do, or deny it, it was just a phase you were going through, its his word against yours. Also go on to the above site or this one and you will find you are not alone in your sexuality.

Wellcome to Gaire.
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# 8 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:46
 
 
It's your word against his. Next time he tries to blackmail you tell him to fuck off.
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# 9 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:46
 
 
Welcome on board Newtown !
Maybe this is a bit of a crazy suggestion, but get in contact with some big tough gay guys who could give yer man a bit of a scare .

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# 10 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:48
 
 
Someone said :
Welcome on board Newtown !
Maybe this is a bit of a crazy suggestion, but get in contact with some big tough gay guys who could give yer man a bit of a scare .


ah for feck sake

ok

i'm packing my bags - again....

why do i have to do the scary jobs?

grumble grumble
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# 11 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:50
 
 
Mike !
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# 12 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 18:54
 
 
Someone said :
Mike !

better get my expenses this time Thomas refused to pay my last two emergency Gaire trips!!! ok technically it wasn't a gaire emergency but brown thomas had a massive sale! that counts right???
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# 13 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 19:02
 
 
This person is by no means a friend and his treatment is disgusting. There is a lot of information posted here and plenty of contact details.
Just remember that you aren`t the first to be bullied and you won`t be the last. Quite a few Gaireans have been in your situation and with each others help they have overcome the bullies.
So what if your Gay,nothing to be ashamed of. Your way to young to be under that sort of pressure.
If you want to chat just pm me and I`ll pass on my number.
Don`t think your alone,your among lots of friends here.
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# 14 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 19:10
 
 
Terminator said, terminate them.

I dont have much advice except that losing friends is not cool. Talk to him. The thing about it is, people will find out about you being gay. Your "friend" will probably open his mouth and they will tell others and so on and so on.

Best thing to do honestly, is just face up to it. Try and play it on your own terms as much as you can.

I think the best thing you can do, is unfortunately put up with it and remember the power of chocolate and venting problems online. College freedom and all the rest isnt far away at 17 and while its tough to be young and have to deal with this stuff there will eventually be a silver lining when you are scoring lots of hot guys!

Dont forget you have wisdom teeth to look forward to!

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# 15 : Tuesday 23-2-2010 @ 19:18
 
 
I agree with everyone, he dosen't seem like a real friend, he thinks he has a power thing over you and is abusing it (maybe he so immature that he thinks that this is cool) but you are being bullied, I would do what everyone else suggested, work on your confidence, make new friends, contact local groups and start making friends with them,contact "outhouse" and remember that this isn't the end of the world, millions of people out their have gone through this so your definitely not alone. And as always Gaire is here. Welcome by the way , The important thing is to take this power away from him, this is something only you can do, but remember you have all the support in the world, he actually dosen't, he only believes he does, cause it based on your fear. If he outs you, deny it, (or confirm it, what ever your comfortable with) he looks like the smallmind gobshite either way. (cos that is all he is)

Best of luck on your decision.

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