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Monogamy Why?
 
# 1 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 14:53
 
 
Just read an article and I am fascinated by these statistics below. But the article asks the question are monogamous relationships more nurture than nature, can sex be separated from love. Should we all be open to open relationships, I would be.

Life’s statistics make a mockery of our cultural dedication to monogamous relationships. Monogamy is expected by 95% of couples, yet a survey, by the Social and Economic Sciences Research Center at Washington State University, of sexually active Seattle residents aged 18-39 found 27% of men and 18% of women reported that during their most recent sexual relationship, they had had sex with at least one other partner. Is this shocking? If you’re a regular tabloid reader, probably not.

More astonishingly, in the 1990s, Robin Baker, then an evolutionary biologist at Manchester University, discovered that 8% of children are conceived when a woman has recently slept with another man. Another statistic reveals that 10% of children in Britain don’t belong to the men they’re supposed to . This, says Baker, “is normal behaviour for a mammal”. His novel, Primal, explores what happens when humans revert to their instincts, away from societal restrictions. “It’s nurture, not nature, that makes us monogamous,” he says.


The whole article
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationshi etc ...
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# 2 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:08
 
 
I like the idea of sharing my life with another person. Not massively hopeful of finding him though.
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# 3 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:11
 
 
Same here
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# 4 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:24
 
 
Aren't you living way out in the countryside? That could be a factor. In my case I wonder if it's the narcissistic personality, borderline alcoholism or deeply unpopular opinions? Or just that I don't colour-coordinate.
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# 5 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:31
 
 
I'd be open to open relationships but she's kick my ass.
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# 6 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:38
 
 
Someone said :
Aren't you living way out in the countryside? That could be a factor. In my case I wonder if it's the narcissistic personality, borderline alcoholism or deeply unpopular opinions? Or just that I don't colour-coordinate.

Yes, that certainly is a factor. But I think the main thing is I don't know how to flirt or to make small talk, I'm hopeless at meeting guys.
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# 7 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:41
 
 
Someone said :

Yes, that certainly is a factor. But I think the main thing is I don't know how to flirt or to make small talk, I'm hopeless at meeting guys.

You are living far enough out for abduction to work
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# 8 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:45
 
 
Someone said :

You are living far enough out for abduction to work

Put the fucking lotion in the basket!
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# 9 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 15:50
 
 
They'll be purring like kittens once the Stockholm syndrome kicks in.
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# 10 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 16:04
 
 
Someone said :
Put the fucking lotion in the basket!



I wouldn't be so sure its nurture rather than nature. There are plenty of species that mate for life.
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# 11 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 16:06
 
 
I'm in a monogomous relationship.when I first started seeing himself I told him I wanted to be free to date other people. I had never been in an open relationship but wanted to try it out. He Had been in one for 9 years and he hated it. Needless to say I didn't get my way. In hindsight I think it's good that I didn't, I love my bf very much and couldn't Stand to think of him with someone else. I know he feels the same. We talk about it every now and again just to make sure we're still on the same page. We both feel that to allow other people into our relationship would really damage the bond we have. However I know plenty of successful couples who are in open relationships. I think it depends on the couple. I think the key is trust and communication and not taking your partner for granted.
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# 12 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 16:08
 
 
Someone said :

Yes, that certainly is a factor. But I think the main thing is I don't know how to flirt or to make small talk, I'm hopeless at meeting guys.

I can't either. I'm a bit of a hopeless case as far as that's concerned. Worse still I don't even notice if someone's coming on to me. A friendly smile, compliment or even going as far as putting the lotion in the basket goes right over my head.
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# 13 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 16:10
 
 
Someone said :

I can't either. I'm a bit of a hopeless case as far as that's concerned. Worse still I don't even notice if someone's coming on to me. A friendly smile, compliment or even going as far as putting the lotion in the basket goes right over my head.

I know. Friends have told me a few times that someone was checking me out but I never noticed.

Last time I scored in a club was because someone pointed it out to me! Just helpless!
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# 14 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 16:12
 
 
I'm for open and honest all the way, but it is very hard, you think you can handle it and then you flip out and that can be the end.
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# 15 : Monday 1-3-2010 @ 16:22
 
 
"Researchers at a British university found that men with higher IQs place greater value on monogamy and sexual exclusivity than their less intelligent peers."

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/science-news/7339654/Intellige etc ...
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