It came to my attention today that unless you tell your partner pretty much straight away that something they were doing sexually was uncomfortable to you then you're not sexually empowered.

According to the person if someone is sitting on your face and you can't breath then you should stop and tell them. Bollox I say, half the fun is knowing that your partner is getting off and sex is uncomfortable at times, it is funny at times, it is painful at times, but it's worth it.

So do you agree that there is a deep rooted problem if you don't bring up every discomfort in the post coital conversation.

Breathing is an important part of maintaining a healthy lifestyle, in and out of the bedroom. I think if you put your own pleasure before the oxygen supply of your partner then you are being a bit selfish. They could end up dead if you're not careful.

I suppose there is perhaps a small sense of sexual compromise in every relationship - you might not feel discomfort from a particular sexual proclivity, but rather it wont do much for you, but you indulge it for the sake of your partner. However is there is outright discomfiture, it really needs to be talked about - who knows, perhaps refusing to is a kind of sexually deviant behabviour in itself. Personally I think that selfish sex is the worst thing.

Sex is a selfish act for the most part, though is one of give and take as both parties want their end in. She was talking about regular relationships of give and take where occasionally this happens, not in any sort of abusive terms. She felt that unless you are completely fulfilled in all your sexual acts then you are not empowered.
But like I said, in the heat of the moment you may get a cramp in your hand, are you the kind to say to your partner while they are panting and close to the end, that you have to stop because of that cramp?
Or perhaps I'm just dedicated an getting my partner off.

Does that spray work? *Invests*

In other words, grin and bear it, so to speak.

well just in those few moments, until it's your turn all in the give and take.

Nothing worse than someones snaggletooth tearing into the veins in yer cock during a good skullfucking session. A quick thump to the side of the head and a roar to 'open that cumdump of a mouth wider' instantly sorts that problem out. It's best to ignore the crying after as the problem has already been solved.

See, Elat knows what I'm talking about

I would have thought that reciever was the put-upon party in Elat's...vivid scenario...

Very vivid scenario, I just read it out loud to a disgusted Herself.

I wonder to what extent dirty talk comes into it, as non-physical discomfiture? I mean, there's taking dirty and then there's talking dirty. And sometimes sexual patronisation...?

Now that is an interesting diversion on the topic, I'm quite up front (if you hadn't noticed) but others aren't as much, so someone's vivid description of what they want to do to their partner could make them feel uncomfortable.

No, no, I meant during sex believe it or not, I can be up-front smetimes too... .