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Dating (For) People With A Disability
 
# 61 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:27
 
 
Someone said :
http://www.ted.com/talks/aimee_mullins_prosthetic_aesthetics.html

Aimee Mullins... she walks though she has had both legs amputated below the knee, and runs for the Olympics.

that is my point!
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# 62 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:29
 
 
Someone said :

i preempted your response and i edited before you even hit send

well in that case there is no discrimination in the world. what are people going on about?

There is no physically disabled people in my world Just differences, and today where there are so many devices to help people, the abilities levels are even less.
And you're right in that case there should be no discrimination as we are all reject products.
Boy the Younger was deaf until he was 5, did that stop him doing anything that any other kid did. Hell no.
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# 63 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:30
 
 
This is the link that I removed as this is Ice's point.

http://www.ted.com/talks/aimee_mullins_prosthetic_aesthetics.html
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# 64 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:32
 
 
Someone said :

There is no physically disabled people in my world Just differences, and today where there are so many devices to help people, the abilities levels are even less.
Boy the Younger was deaf until he was 5, did that stop him doing anything that any other kid did. Hell no.

that also is my point. jesus am i shit at explaining myself? actually don't answer that
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# 65 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:34
 
 
all I see is people arguing and trying to prove the exact same point to the others.
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# 66 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:35
 
 
Someone said :

that also is my point. jesus am i shit at explaining myself? actually don't answer that

I had re-edited because I agree
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# 67 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:36
 
 
Someone said :
all I see is people arguing and trying to prove the exact same point to the others.

not really. i agree with the points but it is not right to say that they are only differences. they are more than differences. if that was the case there would be no discrimination in the world.
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# 68 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:39
 
 
Someone said :

There is no physically disabled people in my world Just differences, and today where there are so many devices to help people, the abilities levels are even less.
Boy the Younger was deaf until he was 5, did that stop him doing anything that any other kid did. Hell no.

yea i think the most important point of all this is about 'quality of life'. some people cope better than others but due to the recognition of a word - 'disability' - be it right or wrong - many inventions etc have been made to improve quality of life for people.
but i will warn too that while people may take the high moral ground and say publicly they have no difficulty dating a person who is deaf, blind, mute or other differences to themselves, i do think that the reality is, many would guided by questioning if it would affect their 'own' quality of life. as human beings we are not always as understanding as we may think we are - and any 'percieved' compromise to our own quality of life can lead to selfishness. we had it with religions in the past where 'marrying a person of different religious persuasion' could have compromised quality of life.
so just proves - we are human - and some will have no problems dating a person who may be seen as being different - others will.
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# 69 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:40
 
 
It brings us to the point ... where do we draw the line between difference and disability?

In Finland, if a person is unable to read/write/speak Finnish, then that is a disability. Yes. So most foreigners are automatically deemed disabled until they get to learn Finnish. This is just an example. Finland Draws a line here where most other countries wouldn't.

So where do we draw the line?
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# 70 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:41
 
 
Someone said :

So where do we draw the line?

i'm drawing the line here
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# 71 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:44
 
 
Someone said :

many would guided by questioning if it would affect their 'own' quality of life. as human beings we are not always as understanding as we may think we are - and any 'percieved' compromise to our own quality of life can lead to selfishness. we had it with religions in the past where 'marrying a person of different religious persuasion' could have compromised quality of life.
so just proves - we are human - and some will have no problems dating a person who may be seen as being different - others will.

A very honest answer. That is what I see to be the case.

It all depends on the person. The book I referred to earlier in the thread, I can't remember the title, stated that on average disabled people tended not to have a regular sex life due to various factors.

Here is a link
http://www.disabled-world.com/communication/disabled-dating/disab etc ...

Rather then copying and pasting the whole article, Here is a selected paragraph.
sex and disability are rarely discussed in the same sentence. As a result more than 50% of disabled people do not have any form of a regular sex life.

Today's, and past societies, tend to believe that persons with intellectual and/or physical disabilities should be non sexual.
Culture has tended to set various rules and ideas on how people should look and act. A person with a disability of some kind may tend to feel unattractive, or even less worthy of sexual partnership or relations, because they think that they can't live up to the idealized image today's society has set. If the disability happened later on in their life, the person may recall how they used to look and feel very unattractive by comparison to who they once were.
Due to the lack of most societies knowledge and sexual education, the disabled person's chances of meeting a potential sexual partner are greatly reduced. However if sex and disabilities was to be discussed more openly in our society today, then people would be much more educated about the topic.
Sexual ignorance is an enormous hurdle for most of us when we are trying to figure ourselves out sexually. Our situations are made a lot worse when we are denied access to the little bit of sex education most able bodied people receive. In a great deal of cases, sex education is being withheld from many persons with disabilities on the assumption that the individual 'won't need it'.
Persons who are intellectually or physically disabled, either from birth or through an accident or onset of disease later on in their life, may find it very difficult to express their own sexuality in satisfying ways.

Read more: http://www.disabled-world.com/communication/disabled-dating/disab etc ...

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# 72 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 11:44
 
 
Someone said :

i'm drawing the line here

Good.
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# 73 : Saturday 23-10-2010 @ 12:08
 
 
Someone said :

So where do we draw the line?

I also draw my line here.
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# 74 : Friday 3-6-2016 @ 21:22
 
 
Not quite dating, but my autistic brother has been given a mechanical penis so that he can be taught how to masturbate. It will be trips to Amsterdam next!
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# 75 : Saturday 4-6-2016 @ 10:13
 
 
Is it like a dildo? It would be more effecient to do it the old way: bring him to a professional. More human, less mechanical. He is human too!
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