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No Strings AND Serious?
 
# 1 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:28
 
 
I always wonder how people can expect to find a "serious" relationship when their profile also seeks "no strings attached".

Who wants a serious relationship with a philanderer?
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# 2 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:33
 
 
Why not? As long as they stop being a "philanderer" when you begin a relationship
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# 3 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:33
 
 
Pinocchio comes to mind.
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# 4 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:35
 
 
i think maybe they want some no strings attached encounters until they find their partner.
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# 5 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:35
 
 
Someone said :
Why not? As long as they stop being a "philanderer" when you begin a relationship

But do you think potential mating candidates will bank on that, unless they have enough of a low self-esteem that they will eventually accept the (inevitable?) cheating?

Someone said :
i think maybe they want some no strings attached encounters until they find their partner.

Clearly, but do you not see a contradiction of one disposition and the other?
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# 6 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:43
 
 
People can`t win-if they put serious relationship only in their profile then it comes across as needy.
It takes a lot of things to click to meet a partner and our means of meeting are curtailed,I don`t care what anyone says-they are curtailed compared to straight people.
Most people have a bit of fun with someone they find attractive,then something happens-or not.
Surely it is more pragmatic to allow for casual meets with the option there of being open to a date or more if it al goes wonderfully.
Isn`t it better to have planted the seed that it`s ok to call for another meet,and conversely that if there was no "click" then theres no hard feelings as it was meant to be "no strings".
It seems like pretty normal dating practice,gay or straight, to me.

Eurgh -not as well written as I would hope but you get the jist.
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# 7 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:46
 
 
Someone said :
People can`t win-if they put serious relationship only in their profile then it comes across as needy.
It takes a lot of things to click to meet a partner and our means of meeting are curtailed,I don`t care what anyone says-they are curtailed compared to straight people.
Most people have a bit of fun with someone they find attractive,then something happens-or not.
Surely it is more pragmatic to allow for casual meets with the option there of being open to a date or more if it al goes wonderfully.
Isn`t it better to have planted the seed that it`s ok to call for another meet,and conversely that if there was no "click" then theres no hard feelings as it was meant to be "no strings".
It seems like pretty normal dating practice,gay or straight, to me.

Eurgh -not as well written as I would hope but you get the jist.

i agree with you 100% well put
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# 8 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:47
 
 
Dating with a serious relationship is one thing: each date may or may not result in one, and you may have to kiss a lot of toads.
But that is the dating game. That is what you actually described: planting the metaphorical seed etc. Seeking a serious relationship does not mean "needy". It means serious.

Expecting each date to "be it" is needy. But no one in their right mind would assume that "serious realtionship" is always = needy.

But "no string" is never serious!
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# 9 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:50
 
 
With blogs like this the nuns and brothers will never be dead!! Why can't we celebrate people being who they want to be
How bizare How bizare
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# 10 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:52
 
 
Someone said :
With blogs like this the nuns and brothers will never be dead!! Why can't we celebrate people being who they want to be
How bizare How bizare

Why do you want to kill people?
How bizarre.
Why do you also associate sex and religion in the same way that nuns and priests do? If they are wrong to associate it, why do you also do it?
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# 11 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:53
 
 
Someone said :
Dating with a serious relationship is one thing: each date may or may not result in one, and you may have to kiss a lot of toads.
But that is the dating game. That is what you actually described: planting the metaphorical seed etc. Seeking a serious relationship does not mean "needy". It means serious.

Expecting each date to "be it" is needy. But no one in their right mind would assume that "serious realtionship" is always = needy.

But "no string" is never serious!

Someone might meet their partner on a no strings attached encounter. As both parties might of advertised for a no strings attached encounter because they did not want to come across as needy.

It does depend the nature of the meeting, If it is in a toilet good luck
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# 12 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:55
 
 
Someone said :

Someone might meet their partner on a no strings attached encounter. As both parties might of advertised for a no strings attached encounter because they did not want to come across as needy.

I do not doubt it.
But how can they ever be sure that the no-string business has not resumed at some stage in the realtionship.
Non-string people do not tend to have the strongest of ethics, and they will always find excuses for their cheating.
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# 13 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:55
 
 
Someone said :
I always wonder how people can expect to find a "serious" relationship when their profile also seeks "no strings attached".

Who wants a serious relationship with a philanderer?

I know two guys that sought sex on websites - found each other and after terrific sex on a regular basis became a couple... look and you will find I guess
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# 14 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:57
 
 
Someone said :

I know two guys that sought sex on websites - found each other and after terrific sex on a regular basis became a couple... look and you will find I guess

But again that is another example of two philanderers who matched to one another based on their mutual no-string ethics.
The test I am asking to think about, I was not clear enough in the OP, is someone who is looking for a serious realtionship, sees a profile saying "No strings attached. Serious relationship" and thinks: "that's a catch".
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# 15 : Saturday 18-6-2011 @ 19:59
 
 
Someone said :

I do not doubt it.
But how can they ever be sure that the no-string business has not resumed at some stage in the realtionship.
Non-string people do not tend to have the strongest of ethics, and they will always find excuses for their cheating.

I would not agree with this. I know alot of gay closeted guys that have no choice but to have no strings attached encounters. They would love to live with a guy. Alot of gay guys that are out, have no interest in having a relationship with a guy that is still in the closet.
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