Someone said :
I was just thinking there about being out and gay sub culture.
Do people want sub culture? like is it a good thing? there aren't enough gays to just go round chatting people up, so let's all agree to go out together and at least the question of "is he
gay?, is he
gay?, is he
gay? is put to rest because we're all meeting under the nice big bracket of all being gay.
Imagine a world where all of your friends knew you were gay immediatly as soon as you knew because it wasn't a mortal disgrace to your eternal soul (or so you're told/taught/led to believe).
Imagine a world where you're having a night out and you spot someone. You lean to one of your friends and say "is that John chap over there gay do you know?" "who him?" the friend leans to another friend mutters a question then returns "yeah Stacy is friends with him and knows for sure he's gay" "great" and off you go.
If everyone's friends knew everyone who was gay and knew that it wasn't an embarrassment but was free, vital information like their eye colour or their nationality. Gay get-togethers would only be needed as a fun themed night out to bitch light heartidly about straight people or how tired your wrists are from all that waving (apparently).
Gaydar would be redundant except for one on one suituations, and a wrong guess would only be mildly embarrassing, and not range into slightly offended to "dangerous mistake pal" territory.
When homosexuality eventually becomes mundane and everyday (if it ever suceeds in happening) Gay people won't need to meet up out of social nessessity. Being gay will just be like reading scifi, being into rugby or having a coin collection. Friends will know friends and non challantly offer the information. Just like the three not quiet yet aquainted X-men fans might eventually wind up in a corner together arguing over wither Storm or Cyclops is the better Ambassador for the series, so to might gay people co-habitate social evenings once actually being gay isin't a kin to being someone who takes unwanted christmas pets away and kills them for free.
(which as a metaphore is, someone who you either may be disgusted by and perminantly change your opinion of or someone you may need to speak with but for unsavoury reasons)
That would b great alright. Though most nights I go to pub, I know 3 - 10 people there, other than at parties.
So ther would still be far too much guess work.
Now if you could persuade straight men not to get offended when I chat them up, or else revitalise the whole gay earring thing, then we'd be laughing!