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# 1 : Thursday 24-11-2011 @ 19:32
 
 
How do you feel about other people outing you? Could you careless or do you feel like it's your place alone to tell who you want to tell?

My boss did it again today, he's constantly doing it, but I don't give a rats who knows so it doesn't bother me, though I could see how it could make others feel uncomfortable if someone else was outing them.

Has someone done that to you and how did you react?
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# 2 : Thursday 24-11-2011 @ 19:36
 
 
Wish somebody done it for me! Save the hassle
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# 3 : Thursday 24-11-2011 @ 19:37
 
 
Next time you hear him outing you, walk up to the person and say,
"since we're telling tales out of school, you should also know that my boss here has a micro penis. It's absolutely tiny!"

He'll never do it again.
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# 4 : Thursday 24-11-2011 @ 19:42
 
 
Oh I get my own back on him all the time Kev, we are terrible to each other, he can never fire me, I have too much dirt on him
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# 5 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 00:40
 
 
6 feet of dirt on him would soften his cough,the mouthy fuck.
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# 6 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 01:05
 
 
No longer care who knows and neither does anyone else. People have been able to tell all my life anyway. One day in third year in Second Level someone said I was gay and I denied it and everyone said "Yeah right". When I came out to Dad in 2002 it was only because he had overheard a phonecall between me and my first time and asked me and he said he had always known since I was 10. Also my former GP told my mother he knew I was gay (I was probably a virgin then). Also I overheard lots of people in secondary school saying "that lad is definitely gay". Someone in my current GP's waiting room sat beside me and said "you're gay aren't you" and then proceeded to ask me if I thought he was bad looking (he is very straight and was using me as a gauge to how women find him I guess). I'm not afraid I'll be beaten up because when a homophobe sees my face it will frighten them away anyway.

The reason people can tell is that I am camp and definitely not "straight-acting". But I am not so camp that cross-dress. I was the kind of fello who constantly got my mother to write "the note" to get out of PE in school as like many gay men I am allergic to sport. Indeed insofar as gay men are into sport I think it has more to do with wanting to look attractive than actual interest.
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# 7 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 01:09
 
 
One of my friends does the same. I'm fine with it most of the time but sometimes it just wrecks my head. If I can't stand the person or I'm just having a bad day, then I don't even want them to know my name let alone anything else. Of course I'm slightly scared that if I bump into my cousin on campus with my friends and if one of them outs me to her then it could get back to the extended family. But apart from those, then I honestly don't mind.
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# 8 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 01:09
 
 
The issue is not one of outing, for many people,its the abuse and invasion of ones own privacy for personal gain,weird enough as that may sound,it is simply disrespectful.
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# 9 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 01:29
 
 
Someone said :
The issue is not one of outing, for many people,its the abuse and invasion of ones own privacy for personal gain,weird enough as that may sound,it is simply disrespectful.

Amen!
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# 10 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 01:50
 
 
Someone said :
The issue is not one of outing, for many people,its the abuse and invasion of ones own privacy for personal gain,weird enough as that may sound,it is simply disrespectful.

Oh right. Like the person doing the outing thinks they're getting one up on you?
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# 11 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 01:56
 
 
Maybe,dunno,kinda like a david brent/insensitive type of person who regards the feelings of others are irrelevant.
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# 12 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 03:20
 
 
The further out you already are the less serious this is, however, outing someone who's in the closet, is almost unforgivable.
I can't imagine a more horrible and personal secreat to have ripped open, especially if a person hasn't come to terms with it yet psychologically.
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# 13 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 03:47
 
 
Your boss needs a slap.
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# 14 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 03:55
 
 
Someone said :
Your boss needs a slap.

Agreed, and might I also compliment the eloquent phrasing.
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# 15 : Friday 25-11-2011 @ 09:43
 
 
One of my friends I told, told me the other week how all the other group of friends who we use to work were happy for me, I didn't tell them, she did, but don't really care that she told them all, saved me telling them. But, generally speaking, I think it is wrong to out someone who is not out.
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