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I Went To The Doctor And Guess What She Told Me
# 1 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 00:35
Went to the doc today for an STI test and she asked me if I was gay. I told her I was bisexual and that was OK. Then we went to do take bloods for the blood test and she had to call a colleague to ask if some test were done from the same samples and she had a bit of a laugh on the phone about this. And she took out a further 2 vials to make it 5 vials of blood to be taken. As she hung up I said I would be friendly and make some small talk and said I would have no blood left once all those vials were filled. She said to me that was the least of my worries and related a story about how she had to tell a poor guy some days previously that he was HIV+ and how he was devastated etc. That put an end to my small talk and was pretty sobering and in fairness something people should hear every so often. But what I took exception to was at the end of the appointment she said to me that I should consider counselling to figure out what my sexuality really is. I told her I was happy enough with what I am and that I don't need counselling. Does anybody else think that she overstepped the mark? Is it OK to be straight or gay but not to be bi? Kind of annoyed by her attitude.
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# 2 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 00:39
Wow, she stepped over the line, dude. You're happy, you know what you like...sounds like there isn't anything for you to work on.
# 3 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 00:50
Yes, that doctor definitely overstepped the line. That was most unprofessional of her. Her concern is your health and the blood tests and nothing else. To suggest that a patient might seek counselling for their sexuality is outrageous, highly intrusive, inappropriate and warrants a complaint to the HSE and/or your Health Authority regional office.
# 4 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 00:53
She overstepped it by a lot!

First I would not trust a doctor who needs to ring someone to check how something's done. She shouldn't be a doctor then.

Secondly, just because they learned someone isn't straight is not an invitation to scare them with horror stories about HIV.

Thirdly she was extremely unprofessional and unethical to suggest there's anything wrong with your sexuality.

I really don't know how people like her can be doctors, it's baffling.

A friend of mine a few years ago went through a horrible time waiting for an HIV test simply because once his doctor heard he was gay it was all he could think of.

Of course he didn't have HIV and his condition at the time had fuck all to do with HIV or any other STI!
# 5 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 01:43
Sounds very unprofessional - I wonder is she a general doctor or does she specialise in this area? You would think she would have more training in this area either way.
# 6 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 02:31
I've never been explicitly asked. The first time I went for sexual health screening through a regular gp's office, after the usual roundabout questions and "no theres no chance I'm pregnant", I told the doctor/nurse that I was gay, then I asked if there were anythings in particular I could be statistically more exposed to... She just said she didn't have any knowledge of any differences in healthcare for LGB individuals.

Since then I went to a specific sexual health centre [the one in smithfield] and it was so much better, the nurse really knew her stuff and was just happy about having pro-active patients.

I would definitely consider the op's experience poor.
# 7 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 02:57
Sounds like she overstepped the line alright.

Write a letter of complaint to her supervisors and forward a copy of it to the HSE as well and you'll see how nice doctors can be when their job is on the line. My mother had terrible spasms in her leg which caused so much pain that she was unable to sleep for the night, it was only when a radio doctor came out around 4am that she was given valium to go to sleep, but when he was taking his tests he discovered her blood preassure was sky high. She'd overslept then the next day as a result of the tablet and the receptionist in our local GP refused to let her see a doctor without an appointment (even though the place was empty) despite the fact she was still in absolute agony. I filed a complaint that if she had of gone untreated she'd have been at risk of a stroke or other complications and how unethical the Receptionist was to not even ask the GP were they free, and ever since they've been nothing short of proffessional.

How anybody can get into childcare, customer service or healthcare without being remotely considerate of other people or even being slightly emphatic is beyond me. File a complaint, it'll sicken her.
# 8 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 04:29
Healthcare professionals are entitled to their opinions but for the love of god be professional and keep it to yourself. She completely overstepped the mark and you should have said it to her. Easier said than done I know with the initial shock of her voicing her opinion in a manner like that.
# 9 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 07:19
Sounds to me like she is the one who could do with a bit of personal development therapy.
I think you are well entitled to be put off by her comments .
Write her a letter,explaining how you found her comments to be upsetting and request that the letter be placed in your file as a reminder for future visits.

That will get her thinking about her actions and maybe she will think before she speaks in the future.
# 10 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 07:20
# 11 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 09:39
WOW!!! She was bang out of order to even comment on your sexuality!! She was no way professional and if it was me I'd put in a complaint xxxxx.
# 12 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 10:08
Are you sure there wasn't some other context in which she meant it, rather than just you being bisexual?
Sometimes in an environment like an STD test where we already feel nervous and a bit vulnerable you can take things up the wrong way.

If not though, I think a complaint to the medical council would be in order. AFAIK counsellors/therapists have been found guilty of professional malpractice for suggesting being gay/bi is something for which you should receive treatment or therapy.

I would be surprised if the same wasn't true for GPs. Apart from being offensive it's just plain bad medical advice if she was suggesting that bisexuality didn't exist or could be cured or whatever.
# 13 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 11:00
Below is a copy of the modern wording of the Hippocratic Oath that ALL health professionals swear to. I have highlighted parts that I feel your doctor has failed to adhere to.

I swear to fulfill, to the best of my ability and judgment, this covenant:
I will respect the hard-won scientific gains of those physicians in whose steps I walk, and gladly share such knowledge as is mine with those who are to follow.

I will apply, for the benefit of the sick, all measures [that] are required, avoiding those twin traps of overtreatment and therapeutic nihilism.

I will remember that there is art to medicine as well as science, and that warmth, sympathy, and understanding may outweigh the surgeon's knife or the chemist's drug.

I will not be ashamed to say "I know not", nor will I fail to call in my colleagues when the skills of another are needed for a patient's recovery.

I will respect the privacy of my patients, for their problems are not disclosed to me that the world may know. Most especially must I tread with care in matters of life and death. If it is given to me to save a life, all thanks. But it may also be within my power to take a life; this awesome responsibility must be faced with great humbleness and awareness of my own frailty. Above all, I must not play at God.
I will remember that I do not treat a fever chart, a cancerous growth, but a sick human being, whose illness may affect the person's family and economic stability. My responsibility includes these related problems, if I am to care adequately for the sick.

I will prevent disease whenever I can, for prevention is preferable to cure.

I will remember that I remain a member of society with special obligations to all my fellow human beings, those sound of mind and body as well as the infirm.
If I do not violate this oath, may I enjoy life and art, respected while I live and remembered with affection thereafter. May I always act so as to preserve the finest traditions of my calling and may I long experience the joy of healing those who seek my help.

Maybe you should go back to your doctor with a copy of this oath.

Nobody has the right to judge anybody else, she did just this when she suggested you see a counsellor.
# 14 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 11:55
Sounds like your typical idiot GP to be honest.
# 15 : Wednesday 22-2-2012 @ 12:09
this is very similar to a situation my mum was in (no details but believe me it was similar). She just changed doctors.

Basically what some GP's forget is that they're highly trained and knowledgeable in matters of health/biology/medicine, but they have no qualified viewpoint by profession on matters such as 'life choice' (and saying find out what your sexuality really is proves the point!)
so that to dispense advice like that in the same vain as giving medical advice is misleading and unprofessional.

I would advise you to find a GP you feel is on the same level as you are.
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