Someone said :
I have done the counselling circuit already. Female counsellor's reassurances don't cut if for me for reasons explained before. The truth is itself depressing. I was refused a health board counsellor on the medical card. I'll think about it but I don't see what the point is. They don't have a magic wand.
Don't mean to come on strong here but that's not really an excuse. If you can't get a counsellor on the medical card go and get one privately. Mosts Counsellors and Therapists (myself included) work on a sliding scale as we are always aware of the financial pressures people are under these days. I have include the registars for the IACP and IAHIP both of which contain comprehensive lists of fully accredited counsellors and therapists around the country and are the two main governing bodies in the field. Also you can check with your local community centres as they usually have counsellors attached to them which are either free of charge or may ask for a small nominal fee.
On the aspect of whether its a male or female counsellor/therapist I must point out that no therapist can give you validation to do so would undermine the purpose of the therapy. They can however help you to find your own validation within yourself. If you wish to tell me what part of the country you are in I can check my contacts see if i can point you in the right direction. http://www.irish-counselling.ie/index.php/find-a-counsellor-psych etc ... http://iahip.org/find-a-therapist