@superfour, she knew about my dressing and was fine with it, we were together for 18mths before we got married. She even bought things for me. Ok maybe she was doing it to make me happy but she did it none the less. Yes maybe i should've talked to her, but why buy things and then not pay for them ? She lived in cloud cuckoo land, kept saying 'oh I'm buying my son a liverpool limited edition plate for Xmas' That would've been fine but she did it with my name and I got the county court judgement when she didn't pay.
I didn't know she was hiding money, it was only after I left her she told me she had been saving to take us on a holiday. Ok I wasn't perfect, but if someone keeps saying things like 'We'll move to isle of wight and start a B&B' but have no way of affording it, or 'I want to take you to so and so place' but never even look at hotels etc how would you feel ?
@pennylane she didn't actually ASK for money I used to give her money as I was the breadwinner, when I was made redundant and had to go on the dole we claimed as a couple and my name was the payee. She had money but used to hide some, maybe I was a little naive not seeing it sooner. I also found out she lied about how many times she'd been married, I was number 6 !!
@Shaggy ok so I'm a coward, so what ? but I don't see how you can objectively comment as you weren't there in my situation. Looking back on it I do see your point but we don't always make the right choices. I wasn't looking for sympathy at all, (in fact I knew I would get slated for posting it) I was just posting my experience and opinion as is my right being a member of this community.
Actually this is the second time you have attacked me for what I have posted and it's getting a little annoying. You seem to have a problem with my views/sexual preferances/fetishes/postings, why not just say so ? instead of slating every post I make. I thought this community was supossed to be friendly and accepting of people whatever thier lifechoices ? But the more I see your responses the more I am dissuaded from replying to threads. Can you honestly say you have never made a mistake or done something you've regretted ? There's a saying 'let he who is without sin cast the first stone' wise words I think, maybe think before you post a little more ?