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# 1 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 00:04
 
 
Well would you ?

this thread may or may not have been inspired by true life events. All similarities to real people are entirely coincidental ...
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# 2 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 00:05
 
 
Meeting up for what?

A ride?
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# 3 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 00:20
 
 
Someone said :
Meeting up for what?

A ride?

Friendship even ?
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# 4 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 00:23
 
 
I don't see why not? If you both feel there is still a base for it.

No harm in meeting up, grab a coffee or whatever and seeing how things develop.

There was obviously some connection there at one point.

Just go in to it with your eyes open and no expectations
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# 5 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 00:35
 
 
Depends on what the grounds are for meeting up and the history of the relationship.

Personally, for me, if it ended bad I'd just want to keep my distance, I wouldn't be too inclined to meet up unless I was the guilty party. I wouldn't meet them either if I was seeing someone else just in case my partner got the wrong impression
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# 6 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 00:49
 
 
Depends on the two people involved.

My ex and I split 18 months ago. We remained close friends and meet up every once in a while for a coffee and a chat. In fact I saw him last Saturday night at a friends birthday bash. We ended up having a good chat and laugh at the bar with some of my friends.
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# 7 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 09:00
 
 
As others have said it would depend on how things ended. If it was a long term relationship and healthy friendship can come from it why not but sometimes it isn't possible. I split from my ex in February after 5 years and we've met up twice since and I can say at the moment things are definitely still too raw for either of us to be around each other. Hopefully given time things will get better but we'll have to wait and see.
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# 8 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 09:07
 
 
I have never had a relationship but there is a person online that I used to meet up with for casual fun who has recently suggested meeting up again. But for me I must get my procedures done first and have decided to be celibate until then. It's a confidence thing. I have only tried the internet as I don't like crowds and loud music, but in reality 99% of the time I'm too scared of rejection to meet because some have said I don't look like they expected from the photos. I do like this person but I must stay the course and get my work done first.
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# 9 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 10:03
 
 
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I have never had a relationship but there is a person online that I used to meet up with for casual fun who has recently suggested meeting up again. But for me I must get my procedures done first and have decided to be celibate until then. It's a confidence thing. I have only tried the internet as I don't like crowds and loud music, but in reality 99% of the time I'm too scared of rejection to meet because some have said I don't look like they expected from the photos. I do like this person but I must stay the course and get my work done first.

Rejection is something that I think everyone is afraid of having been there myself and swore I would never get into a relationship for fear of it happening i took the view when I was younger that I didn't want a relationship but it happened and I wouldn't change it for the world, it's difficult now but it will get better. Things do get better. When you are ready it will happen all you have to do is be yourself
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# 10 : Saturday 26-5-2012 @ 10:05
 
 
I wouldn't, not allowing myself to be used for sex anymore! I'll take it handy!
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# 11 : Monday 28-5-2012 @ 01:18
 
 
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# 12 : Monday 28-5-2012 @ 07:54
 
 
Someone said :
Well would you ?

this thread may or may not have been inspired by true life events. All similarities to real people are entirely coincidental ...

I would treat this as any new relationship with history.
The same as starting dating a friend or a foe or the writer of Robinson Crusoe. That is assuming there are no "unresolved" issues.
If there is a passive in the relationship (unresolved issues), they would need to be resolved before entering a relationship, the same as entering a relationship with a recently divorced christian brother.
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# 13 : Monday 28-5-2012 @ 08:07
 
 
I would get back together with an ex...but again it would depend on the situation.

Was the break up amicable? What was the reason for the break up? Has this issue been resolved cos otherwise there is no point as it will happen again...
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# 14 : Monday 28-5-2012 @ 09:27
 
 
My parents must have broken up about twenty times, I always thought that was normal in a relationship. Same as throwing things, pulling the oven door off in a rage and hiding car keys.
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# 15 : Monday 28-5-2012 @ 10:05
 
 
It's always difficult being round an ex. People that you have had casual relationships with are different and personally I find meeting them very stimulating. Maybe I'm more suited to the casual scene than the longterm type relationship?
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