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# 31 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 20:29
 
 
Someone said :
A lot of gay men are okay with their partners getting off with other men anyway.

I wouldn't say a lot, more like a few, once a cheater always a cheater no matter what site you go on. For me it would be the risk factors of STI's being passed around and not knowing who had what sorry guys not for me.
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# 32 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:01
 
 
Someone said :
And what about married women.

What would you do if the wife turned up and wanted to talk to you? Maybe you would be able to tell her that as a straight woman *insert insulting stereotype here*

I would not advise you to rely on your excuse, should you ever be confronted by a wife, girlfriend, boyfriend etc., as you are still likely to get a foot in the arse.

I always get tested and if she doesn't know she is not getting hurt.
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# 33 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:01
 
 
Someone said :
and if she doesn't know she is not getting hurt.

Bullshit.
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# 34 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:04
 
 
Someone said :
I always get tested and if she doesn't know she is not getting hurt.

And if she finds out?
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# 35 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:06
 
 
Someone said :
And if she finds out?

There are no certainties in life but I think I'd be the last person anyone would suspect their hubby's of cheating with, which ironically is an advantage in this case in terms of it not coming out. What do you expect me to do I am in no position to be choosey. I have to take what chances come my way. And anyway them and their wives live far away. They were both once offs and were only quickies.
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# 36 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:13
 
 
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There are no certainties in life but I think I'd be the last person anyone would suspect their hubby's of cheating with, which ironically is an advantage in this case in terms of it not coming out. What do you expect me to do I am in no position to be choosey.

You say you are in no position to be choosey, the hell you're not you have the choice to say no I don't want to be a part of that. You can say fair enough you want to cheat on your wife/boyfriend whatever but I don't want to be party to that go somewhere else. It's about making choices the right ones or the wrong ones and living with yourself whichever you decide.

You say it's like being validated by someone of a higher status, sorry but this is the 21st century mate every one is of the same status althought other would seem to think otherwise. Like I said in a different thread to you Falconer no one else no matter who they are can give you validation. The only person who can do that is you and it comes from inside yourself.
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# 37 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:15
 
 
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You say it's like being validated by someone of a higher status, sorry but this is the 21st century mate every one is of the same status althought other would seem to think otherwise.

That is just not true. Society spouts that slogan about equality but it just isn't what happens on the ground. Different statii do exist in practice. These men give me crumbs of validation and when offered again I will devour them hungrily (the validation - I'm not a cannibal lol).
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# 38 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:18
 
 
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What do you expect me to do I am in no position to be choosey.

Very few of us are.
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# 39 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:19
 
 
Someone said :
Very few of us are.

From the looks of you I'd say otherwise BBJ. It's easier to say no when you're spoiled for choice. When you're hard up you take what you can get. So I ask that people not judge me too harshly.
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# 40 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:20
 
 
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From the looks of you I'd say otherwise BBJ.

Its all about looks with you. You need to get over it.
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# 41 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:21
 
 
Someone said :
That is just not true. Society spouts that slogan about equality but it just isn't what happens on the ground. Different statii do exist in practice. These men give me crumbs of validation and when offered again I will devour them hungrily (the validation - I'm not a cannibal lol).

I'm sorry mate but I don't buy it, until such time as you see you are worth more than what you think now you will be nothing more than an easy lay for those men and (probably gonna get a slap on the wrists for this) you could become for want of a better term the village bike!!

Anyway yet again this is entirely off topic!
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# 42 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:37
 
 
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When you're hard up you take what you can get. So I ask that people not judge me too harshly.

No you don't. It's called having dignity. It's called having respect for yourself. It's called being a human being. You don't have to have sex with the first thing that offers you a penis.
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# 43 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 21:51
 
 
Someone said :
A lot of gay men are okay with their partners getting off with other men anyway.

A very sweeping statement if ever I heard one. I was in a relationship for 3 years and it ended in 2005 after I dumped the guy for cheating. He was bringing guys home while I was at work. I confronted him, he denied it. He was dumped and he pleaded for another chance.

Yeah I was ok with that

Don't tar every other gay man with your obviously low standards!
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# 44 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 22:02
 
 
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No you don't. It's called having dignity. It's called having respect for yourself. It's called being a human being. You don't have to have sex with the first thing that offers you a penis.

@ Falconer I don't think I've been on these boards a full month yet and it seems to be all about looks and validation from men or the first thing that offers you cock. I don't judge you, you obviously have things you need to deal with & you really should for your own sake. As for the sex thing, it's not the end all and be all of life. I have had sex once in the last 6 months and that was only quite recently. I only came out of a 5 year relationship and towards the end of that sex was the furthest thing from my mind believe me. Yes I enjoyed having sex for the first time in months recently but it ceertainly didn't validate me or make me feel better about being single. It was something I wanted, did and it could be another 6 months or longer before I decide to do it again. You don't get over someone by getting under someone new, just the same as you don't get validation as a human being by having sex another. Considering I've probably just overshared this really is the last I'm saying on the subject because to be honest it's beginning to feel like flogging a dead horse.
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# 45 : Wednesday 6-6-2012 @ 22:45
 
 
Someone said :
Grindr is just the new chatroom. Back in the day when chatrooms were popular I used them to chat. Not to have cybersex or to hook up or to swap pics. Just to chat.

I'm in a relationship and use Grindr to chat. Granted, most people are looking just for sex but there are loads that just want to pass a few minutes on a bus and have a chat.

I have my relationship status pretty clearly stated in my profile and I say that I'm just looking for chat but the most annoying thing is when someone ignores it or assumes they can convince you to cheat on your partner. One time, this guy popped up and offered a BJ. I said that I was in a happy, healthy long term relationship. He replied 'So am I. But do you want a BJ?' I told him to fuck right off and blocked him.

Different guys have different standards and different ideas about what's OK when in a relationship. For all you know, maybe his partner 'allows' him to have a bit on the side. And he wasn't to know what configuration your relationship has. Some guys, especially gay guys (IMO) seem to think a bit on the side is perfectly acceptable - as in it doesn't constitute cheating - and some couples even agree on this. It wouldn't be my cup of tea either, but just saying people have different relationships.

Also, in the back of some guys' minds, they don't *really* believe that guys are on Grindr truly for just a chat!
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