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Straight Acting Or Just Plain Homophobic?
 
# 1 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 19:27
 
 
What do you think of the phrase 'straight acting'? I know a lot of people really dislike it and, to be honest, I can't understand why. To me, it's just an easy, quick way of saying that you're a prissy queen, that you don't fall into the camp gay stereotype.

Although, that said, I once met this flamer who claimed that he was straight acting. He couldn't hold his wrist straight if it was in a cast.

But what do you think? Do you describe yourself as straight acting? Or does it piss you off when others do?
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# 2 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 19:29
 
 
Prefer masculine
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# 3 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 19:30
 
 
Someone said :
Prefer masculine

Hhmm...
I think just 'masculine' is more narrowed. To me, when someone says masculine I imagine some big body builder. Whereas 'straight acting' seems to have a broader definition.
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# 4 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 19:35
 
 
My only issue with it is that it comes across as being an "act" and that the ordinary gay guy has to be how they're perceived on TV etc.

You shouldn't have to define yourself into any category.

What annoys me most about it is the amount of them who write it as "St8", it's "Str8" people!!
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# 5 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 19:38
 
 
The furthest thing from straight acting short of cross dressing.
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# 6 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 20:06
 
 
hate the term straight acting, in the context its used

used as a short hand for masculinity it implies that heterosexuality is some default template which comes "naturally" to those of that orientation and therefore if someone is masculine they are merely apeing or emulating a role

obviously all human behaviour is part "acting" part social conformity part habitual
but i think there is an undertone of self loathing or conceit in those who would use "straight acting" to describe themselves.. would make me wonder when the mask comes off
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# 7 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 20:12
 
 
But I think the 'acting' part of the term is where the misrepresentation comes from. I don't think that anyone who says they're straight acting is putting on a performance; it's just who they are.

I guess 'masculine' is a better phrase for it but the problem with that is that, by definition, every gay man is masculine. Masculinity applies to all males - even if they only have small levels of it.

No one ever has a problem with saying they're camp or twinky or even calling themselves a 'bit of a queen', which to me just feeds the stereotype. And yet, there's a stigma around 'straight acting'. I think that the gay men who describe themselves as queens should be proud of who they are. But I also think that the gay men who describe themselves as straight acting can be - and often are - proud too.

To the people who don't like the term 'straight acting', what would they find a better description to use?
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# 8 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 20:23
 
 
It doesn't bother me...some people look way too much into it. It's basically a way of saying "I'm not camp".
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# 9 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 20:27
 
 
Someone said :
It doesn't bother me...some people look way too much into it. It's basically a way of saying "I'm not camp".

Bears wouldn't really be camp ?
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# 10 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 20:28
 
 
Someone said :

Bears wouldn't really be camp ?

I've met loads of camp bears.
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# 11 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 20:37
 
 
It's an awful term that fuels gay stereotypes. People who use it probably aren't comfortable with their sexuality.
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# 12 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 21:32
 
 
I think it is a painful expression used by people who don't consider the meaning of their words, or alternatively by those who just haven't.
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# 13 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 22:05
 
 
Someone said :
I think it is a painful expression used by people who don't consider the meaning of their words, or alternatively by those who just haven't.

heartily agree

i always expect the phrase "straight acting" is no less sinister in a personal ad than it is as the furthest selected point on the dial of an electro convulsive therapy machine you see in one of those "Gay Cure" clinics

a nasty phrase, but i dont for a moment think that most of the people who use it realise it or intend it, but would make me quite uncomfortable i must say
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# 14 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 22:10
 
 
Someone said :
What annoys me most about it is the amount of them who write it as "St8", it's "Str8" people!!

Calm down dear, the St8 of ya!
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# 15 : Tuesday 28-8-2012 @ 22:29
 
 
Why is 'straight acting' more offensive than 'queer'?

Queer seems to be mostly accepted as a synonym for homosexual. But up to very recently it meant strange or different or even wrong in everyday language (and is still in use as these to a certain extent today).

To me, queer is a lot nastier than saying straight acting.

As far as I'm concerned, straight acting is just saying that you don't live up to some of the negative stereotypes of gay men.
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