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How To Deal With Jilted Lovers?
 
# 1 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:00
 
 
He could hardly be described as a lover - it was only a one night stand. I did make arrangements to meet him again but then there was some other guy jumped in his slot so I cancelled - informed him exactly of what the story was by email but since then he has not gotten over it and I am still getting the odd abusive txt or email which I don't answer. Its not such a bother to me but what if I had possibly met him a few times I am sure it would be much worse.

To ignore is probably the best advice which is what I am doing - any of you guys experience the same.
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# 2 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:06
 
 
Just ignore him - sounds like a bunny-boiler in the making
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# 3 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:19
 
 
Someone said :
....some other guy jumped in his slot so I cancelled

The poor lad - he was a very silly boy in the first place to have thought you were worth it. If the above line - "some other guy jumped in his slot so I cancelled" says anything about you, then it say you are not very sensitive to someone else's disappointment. He certainly is better off without you -I'm sure if you had some decency you would be contacting him again and again to definitively tell him it was a one nighter and show some humanity and respect to the poor fellow.
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# 4 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:27
 
 
Tell him to cunt off.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
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# 5 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:29
 
 
Just ignore it, he will get bored of it once he meets someone else.
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# 6 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:29
 
 
Someone said :
He could hardly be described as a lover - it was only a one night stand. I did make arrangements to meet him again but then there was some other guy jumped in his slot so I cancelled - informed him exactly of what the story was by email but since then he has not gotten over it and I am still getting the odd abusive txt or email which I don't answer. Its not such a bother to me but what if I had possibly met him a few times I am sure it would be much worse.

To ignore is probably the best advice which is what I am doing - any of you guys experience the same.

I think you meant some other guy jumped in your slot.
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# 7 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:35
 
 
The clue is in the title what you did was callous. I know you are saying you were up front with him but your line about "slots" makes it sounds like you view "lovers" in a very inhumane way.

If you have it in you maybe you should clear up the miscommunication and make sure in the future your hook ups understand the situation.
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# 8 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 13:54
 
 
Someone said :
The clue is in the title what you did was callous. I know you are saying you were up front with him but your line about "slots" makes it sounds like you view "lovers" in a very inhumane way.

If you have it in you maybe you should clear up the miscommunication and make sure in the future your hook ups understand the situation.

He says he already explained the situation....
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# 9 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 14:05
 
 
Yes but judging by his post he has not done so from the perspective of someone who gives a shit about how the other person might feel.
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# 10 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 14:07
 
 
Someone said :
Yes but judging by his post he has not done so from the perspective of someone who gives a shit about how the other person might feel.

Well I don't think we have a clue about that. I can post in whatever way I want to a board or even friends, but would talk in a very different way to the person directly involved.
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# 11 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 14:13
 
 
Sorry the jump into someones slot was insensitive way of portraying it - was rushing to explain what happened - also when someone is txting you 5/6 times a day to meet them again it kinda makes me nervous about him - which was another reason I didn't. .
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# 12 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 14:29
 
 
I think that on some level you must feel bad or you wouldn't be asking for advice. Also It is pretty unpleasant to have someone sending you nasty messages. So. I would propose this.

Send him one last email. Tell him you can see he is upset by the way he felt he was treated and that you are sorry if he feels that you failed to communicate properly with him.

It appears you don't want to see him again which I get as personally I would run a mile from someone barraging me with texts when the feeling isn't mutual.

So be upfront. Tell him in a nice way that it just didn't click for you, he is a lovely guy but you really don't want to lead him on.

If you do that or something like it then you have no reason to feel that you have been underhand and then hopefully he gets the message and his anger subsides as perhaps he wont feel so used.

Good luck
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# 13 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 15:21
 
 
whatever you do don't murder him, put him in an oil barrell and bury him under a pile of rubbish, we all know how that works out
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# 14 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 15:34
 
 
It"s been a looooooooooong time since I had to turn anyone down so wouldn't know.

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# 15 : Sunday 25-11-2012 @ 17:00
 
 
tear...
Someone said :
It"s been a looooooooooong time since I had to turn anyone down so wouldn't know.


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