Someone said :
Hi a few months ago I posted a topic re meeting new gay people as friends and since than I have joined http://www.meetup.com/dublin-international-gay-social/
with several great meets and had organised my 1st one last Thurs 13th of Dec..
Its all well and good - I have tried MH, gaydar, this site - nites out on the town.. I have had a few funny dates and meets - a friend said I should write a book .. but nothing real, no connection or them just wanting sex...
is there some where out there where I havent tried... I am hoping you can help that meet up group is great for friends... but hoping some in Gaireland might know of something amazing about dating ... that I havent tried...
nothing real, no connection.
That's just the way it goes.
This isn't 1970s heterosexual Ireland.
Back then, men got into relationships with women who they hoped would marry them so that they would be guaranteed sex for the rest of their lives.
In modern homosexual Ireland, we are already guaranteed sex for the rest of our lives so sexual attraction (and getting on reasonably well) alone isn't a reason to get into a "relationship" with someone.
The truth is that very few people actually fall in love genuinely.
Very few people meet their soul mate/perfect match.
That is just Hollywood nonsense.
Most of the people that you know who are in relationshits - it is a major struggle a lot of the time, but they have made the decision that it is preferable for them to put up with the struggles than to have to endure the stigma and loneliness??
of being single
In the heterosexual world, having children is a fantastic distraction from the fact that your partner isn't actually your perfect match/soul mate.
You can get through around 25 years if you spread your kids' births across ten years.
In the homosexual world the 2 members of the relationship don't have the distraction of naturally occurring offspring so it is more difficult to make relationships last.
These days, (especially in the homosexual world) people don't search for the person who will have sex with them for the rest of their lives.
If a connection/chemistry happens then meet that person again until that chemistry/connection is gone.
If both people like each other's company then you will continue to spend time with each other regardless of what you are looking for.
Focus on being happy with yourself.
Live your life as if you will never have "another half".
Be a full person on your own.
If you are lucky enough to meet someone who makes you happier than your fully fulfilled self, then spend time with that person.