Someone said :
I sometimes find it's hard to 'sustain' conversations with potential romance interests especially when you're putting effort into looking for perfect matches.
You see someone, they tick all the boxes, you message them then message you back. great.
But then after a while you reach the point where you have to say right when's handy for you to come to Mayo? or when handy for me to visit you and we'll have a cup of tea?.
then it's usually something like I dunno, I got work, it I;m busy, or can;t afford it (on both sides) I've used these reasons myself.
but then you're stuck in limbo
if you stop messaging them, you've stopped messaging them. If you carry on shit talking you seem daft, there are only a certain number of times you can ask someone how their day was, or how many time you can say "so we need to meet" without looking desperate.
you're screwed if you do and screwed if you don't.
ye I usually straight of the bat say it - I have learned its best this way - here are the excuses on the way to a date in the last year
my mother had a panic attack shes gone to hosp. sorry cant make it but i feel really bad for you.
5mins away from smithfield luas stop where we agreed to meet - my best friend is in a nd e i have to go to her
on a guy that i took my time with - my uncle has cancer.
i have to study - or a family thing has came up all of a sudden
and another more personal one from a guy - which I wont go into...
or my favourite my dog is sick - or when you ask do you want another date rather than just txt no or ring and say no they dont reply.
its a funny old game - but sure you learn from each exp. and become better..