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Love Of Your Life... Seeking Mr. Right
 
# 16 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 12:23
 
 
I have become very cynical in my old age (surprise surprise). I don't believe in fairytale endings anymore (sob). I've learned that I'm probably the root cause of never having the opportunity on account of my impossible standards.

Shockingly enough I have been single since the demise of my last disastrous relationship six months ago. I'm rather content in my Garboness right now but I wouldn't want to rule out the possibility of meeting that smart, profound, witty, beautiful, sexy... oh yeh I forgot point 1....
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# 17 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 12:29
 
 
That's the thing, isn't it, this unrealistic expectation of there being the ONE. We all have our flaws. Given the number of people on this planet it would be far more realistic to expect to come across a few who would be right for you at that exact moment in time your paths cross.

There is a time and place for everything.

Mr/Miss Right is an invention for people to dream about.

Then they wake up.
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# 18 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 12:56
 
 
I don't understand this standards thing though, surely it's how someone makes you feel rather than what attributes they have.
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# 19 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 13:01
 
 
One the attributes IS how they make you feel.
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# 20 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 17:31
 
 
I sometimes find it's hard to 'sustain' conversations with potential romance interests especially when you're putting effort into looking for perfect matches.

You see someone, they tick all the boxes, you message them then message you back. great.
But then after a while you reach the point where you have to say right when's handy for you to come to Mayo? or when handy for me to visit you and we'll have a cup of tea?.

then it's usually something like I dunno, I got work, it I;m busy, or can;t afford it (on both sides) I've used these reasons myself.

but then you're stuck in limbo
if you stop messaging them, you've stopped messaging them. If you carry on shit talking you seem daft, there are only a certain number of times you can ask someone how their day was, or how many time you can say "so we need to meet" without looking desperate.

you're screwed if you do and screwed if you don't.
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# 21 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 17:33
 
 
Someone said :
I couldn't score standing in front of an open goal on an empty pitch.

I don't go out with the intention of scoring, at most, I go out with the intention of talking to some new people and making some new, gay, friends. It's just that no-one ever approaches me and I'm a bit shy so rarely approach others, and when I do they aren't interested in chatting, even as friends which in itself is very disheartening. Either I'm an ugly fecker that no-one wants, gay guys are too stuck up or there's an underlying issue I'm not aware of. Probably all 3 knowing me!

I reckon guys thiink that if your talking to them - that your interested iin them - I met a guy I know just from been in the G the other nite he was on his own and I was on my own he said he was going to the bar to get another drink - and he waited till I was not looking than disappeared - very sad state of affair.

I have read your post - if you are interested in friendship hit me up

lee
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# 22 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 17:41
 
 
Someone said :
I sometimes find it's hard to 'sustain' conversations with potential romance interests especially when you're putting effort into looking for perfect matches.

You see someone, they tick all the boxes, you message them then message you back. great.
But then after a while you reach the point where you have to say right when's handy for you to come to Mayo? or when handy for me to visit you and we'll have a cup of tea?.

then it's usually something like I dunno, I got work, it I;m busy, or can;t afford it (on both sides) I've used these reasons myself.

but then you're stuck in limbo
if you stop messaging them, you've stopped messaging them. If you carry on shit talking you seem daft, there are only a certain number of times you can ask someone how their day was, or how many time you can say "so we need to meet" without looking desperate.

you're screwed if you do and screwed if you don't.

ye I usually straight of the bat say it - I have learned its best this way - here are the excuses on the way to a date in the last year

my mother had a panic attack shes gone to hosp. sorry cant make it but i feel really bad for you.

5mins away from smithfield luas stop where we agreed to meet - my best friend is in a nd e i have to go to her

on a guy that i took my time with - my uncle has cancer.

i have to study - or a family thing has came up all of a sudden

and another more personal one from a guy - which I wont go into...

or my favourite my dog is sick - or when you ask do you want another date rather than just txt no or ring and say no they dont reply.

its a funny old game - but sure you learn from each exp. and become better..
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# 23 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 18:39
 
 
Well, people will always have excuses.
When I'm on the "not as interested" and turning people down side of things, I usually try to be as honest as possible but making sure I actually turn them down i.e. actually say in some form or other that I'm not interested.

Sometimes when people give an excuse to me I'm confused. It's probably half hearing what you want to hear, and half taking things literally, but sometimes the thought that you're being turned down is actually missed and then you send one more message like "grand, shur' I'll message you again when you're free"

Now, you would never actually ask this, but it seems like the right thing to ask would be: "Are you too (insert excuse) to meet me even though you want to meet me, or are you too (insert excuse) to meet me but also you're not that interested any ways? Please reply clearly if you wish me to stop perusing a meeting or wither you want me to keep our communications open for later meeting?"
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# 24 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 19:05
 
 
He doesn't exist...
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# 25 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 19:16
 
 
it would be great to bring all the people (including myself) who seem to find it hard to 'find someone' into the one room. its just amazing how many gays are out there so seem to all feel the same - that they cant find someone and its something that i have been looking at myself for awhile now.

for me its a kind of situ that one minute its "i wont be happy until i find someone", then its "if i find someone then maybe i wont be happy with that either" so its expectations and preconceptions from 'me' that are my own downfall. (kicks myself in the ass again to try and get real - there are loads of potentials out there - but i need to give them people a chance and just see what happens).
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# 26 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 20:02
 
 
Ah there's a Mr Right for everyone, just have to keep searching. After been away for a year and been single for three years I feel I need someone in my life. Sick of been single I must be getting old I've been on a date or two since I got back but nothing with a spark but I believe there is someone for everyone
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# 27 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 21:11
 
 
Someone said :
He doesn't exist...

expecting failure rules out disappointment, but it also leaves you closed to the the magic moment.
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# 28 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 21:21
 
 
Someone said :

expecting failure rules out disappointment, but it also leaves you closed to the the magic moment.

Magic doesn't exist...
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# 29 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 21:57
 
 
Wow, you're just a canyon of happiness Sakura, aren't ya?
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# 30 : Monday 7-1-2013 @ 22:04
 
 
Canyons aren't real....
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