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Skinny: Can It Be As Bad As Fat?
 
# 1 : Sunday 2-11-2014 @ 19:33
 
 
When it comes to attraction I have a very high tolerance for fat, I don't really mind it as long as it's over good strong muscles and everything else is in check. On the other hand skinny can make me feel quite uncomfortable. For navigation purposes I hold a lot of people's arms and I've noticed in work that a lot of adult men have really skinny arms.... I hate feeling all the hard sinewy bits that aren't fat or muscle but aside from that I don't think it's a very flattering look for men beyond their teens/early twenties. Feelings?
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# 2 : Sunday 2-11-2014 @ 19:36
 
 
Skinny: Can It Be As Bad As Fat?

Not if they fall on you
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# 3 : Sunday 2-11-2014 @ 19:42
 
 
Someone said :
Skinny: Can It Be As Bad As Fat?

Not if they fall on you

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Or pass out on top of you during sex
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# 4 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 01:46
 
 
I find society in general is incredibly hostile and rude to those who are considered "skinny", and I can tell you so from experience as I myself am skinny and have been subjected to abuse for years over it.

In my family, we naturally don't begin to put weight on until our late 20's or early 30's. Whilst it's considered a blessing to some, I'd consider it a curse: we can eat tonnes of food in the space of a week and not gain a pound from it. Everything from meat, potatoes, pastas, milk, curries....you name it, it doesn't work.

For years the men in my family in particular have suffered verbal abuse for this. Some, including myself, were considered weak due to their frame and as a result were prime candidates for physical bullying. I could not begin to explain how derogatory and rude people have been to me because of my weight and the effects it has had on me as a person.

I have had people ask me upon introduction if I had eating disorders. I have had strangers come over to me and maul me only to shout lines such as "You need to eat something!" or "Do you even eat??" loudly in public. I have had randomers approach me in clubs and tell me I look emaciated. I've had first dates tell me (on that first date!) that I would be "so much cuter if I put a bit of weight on". When wearing certain t-shirts or going on sunny holidays where my body is exposed, I've seen people snigger at my physique or look at me as if the very sight of me was hilarious.

It's impossible to express just how much situations like this have battered my confidence and self esteem over the years. It ironically resulted in me having a case of body dysmorphia where despite force feeding myself on the hour every hour, I was convinced I was getting skinnier by the week. Even now, I struggle to gain weight. I eat a large breakfast every morning, a lunch, two dinners, and a meal before bed all whilst snacking in between. The majority of my wages is spent on food or weight gain shakes (and would you believe in 3 months, I've only put on half a stone despite all of this). I have put myself under an insane amount of pressure to fill out because I simply can't handle the way people treat me over my frame.

When you are overweight, generally people don't seem to say remarks like "wow you eat too much!" or "you could do with losing a bit of weight!" to your face as often as a skinny person would hear it. Society kinda has "fatshaming" as a taboo where people know it's wrong to make remarks about those packing a few extra pounds, but people find it perfectly acceptable to slam those who are slim. What people fail to realise is it's got the exact same negative effects as fatshaming and it DOES play on that person's confidence and self esteem. Even that odious "all about that base" song which is in the charts right now is all about "power to the big girls!" whilst getting a dig in at (and I quote) "skinny bitches".

Do you not think we're not already aware of how we look? That we don't feel as masculine standing next to broader, more fuller men? Or that we don't look at other women and wish we had a few more curves and less of a "boyish" frame? Most skinny people I know hate the way people speak to them about their weight. Skinny isn't always a choice, just like being a bit chunky isn't always down to being lazy or having a bad diet.

I understand it's your personal preference to like someone with a bit more meat on his bones but I really wish people opened their eyes to their views on slimmer people and stopped talking about our weight and our appearance like it was their own business.
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# 5 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 04:27
 
 
That really is terrible, sorry to hear it. I knew women can feel very uncomfortable having flat bums and chests but I hadn't really considered it for men.All the clothes in topman are built for really skinny men and in general the sizing on mens clothes isn't an accurate measure of what a medium or large man is so I guess skinny is in fashion. I have a friend who tries to put on weight aswell but I don't think he has ever been abused by strangers for it.
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# 6 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 09:59
 
 
I've been the same weight, 65 kg since I was 21. Personally I'm more defined than skinny, but people have no problem telling me that I'm "skinny". The same people would consider it an insult on the other-hand to describe somebody as fat. It's just as hurtful.
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# 7 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 11:29
 
 
The wording of the question...

Can skinny be as BAD is terribly judgemental...
Given that it doesn't allude to size and health, it is merely assuming that skinny is a turn off exactly the same way fat can be viewed as a turn off...
Back to sexualising people on their shape...

We are all entitled to be sexualy attracted to any shape or size, but, we shouldn't throw around judgements ie a size /shape is Bad...

The number of posts on social media sites such as FB disgust me at times, idiots passing around A Real Woman, Real.Man is, in relation to size graphics ...
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# 8 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 15:17
 
 
No way. The culture glorifies thinness.
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# 9 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 15:28
 
 
Someone said :
No way. The culture glorifies thinness.

Certain elements of the media might, however the average person does not seem to.
Skinny = gross looking in my book.
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# 10 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 15:32
 
 
Someone said :

Certain elements of the media might, however the average person does not seem to.
Skinny = gross looking in my book.

So does it follow then that Fat = gross also?
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# 11 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 15:34
 
 
I was clinically underweight for years - especially in my teens and early 20s. I used to get bullied in school for being very skinny. I've since filled out a god bit.

Personally, I think that overweight people come in for a lot more societal scrutiny than thin people. But being very skinny can also attract unwanted attention too.
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# 12 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 15:38
 
 
Someone said :
So does it follow then that Fat = gross also?

With me?
It would depend on how fat.
I would date an over weight girl without a second thought, i find nothing attractive (physically) in extremely skinny people.

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# 13 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 16:10
 
 
Someone said :
No way. The culture glorifies thinness.

Incorrect...
The fashion industry glorifies thinness, and is responsible for the prevalence of anorexia amongst young models..

Personaly I would never dream of insulting a larger person about their size, yet I constantly Have to justify my choice or reasons for my thinness..


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# 14 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 16:51
 
 
Someone said :
The wording of the question...

Can skinny be as BAD is terribly judgemental...
Given that it doesn't allude to size and health, it is merely assuming that skinny is a turn off exactly the same way fat can be viewed as a turn off...
Back to sexualising people on their shape...

We are all entitled to be sexualy attracted to any shape or size, but, we shouldn't throw around judgements ie a size /shape is Bad...

The number of posts on social media sites such as FB disgust me at times, idiots passing around A Real Woman, Real.Man is, in relation to size graphics ...



I didn't mean that any shape is in itself bad but there are certain shapes that seem to get a lot of bad press and IMO fat is very often portrayed as being unnatractive (sexually unaatractive) so I was just looking at the other side.
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# 15 : Monday 3-11-2014 @ 19:02
 
 
The thread title and opening post tone are disappointing/pretty repellent. I mean the concept of a thread dedicated to a discussion on which group of people do we find more disgusting? Honestly... That it devolved into fat jokes immediately unsurprising.

@Vagabond that is terrible. People really need to fook off commenting on others appearance period unless it is positive and even then with caution.
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