I find society in general is incredibly hostile and rude to those who are considered "skinny", and I can tell you so from experience as I myself am skinny and have been subjected to abuse for years over it.
In my family, we naturally don't begin to put weight on until our late 20's or early 30's. Whilst it's considered a blessing to some, I'd consider it a curse: we can eat tonnes of food in the space of a week and not gain a pound from it. Everything from meat, potatoes, pastas, milk, curries....you name it, it doesn't work.
For years the men in my family in particular have suffered verbal abuse for this. Some, including myself, were considered weak due to their frame and as a result were prime candidates for physical bullying. I could not begin to explain how derogatory and rude people have been to me because of my weight and the effects it has had on me as a person.
I have had people ask me upon introduction if I had eating disorders. I have had strangers come over to me and maul me only to shout lines such as "You need to eat something!" or "Do you even eat??" loudly in public. I have had randomers approach me in clubs and tell me I look emaciated. I've had first dates tell me (on that first date!) that I would be "so much cuter if I put a bit of weight on". When wearing certain t-shirts or going on sunny holidays where my body is exposed, I've seen people snigger at my physique or look at me as if the very sight of me was hilarious.
It's impossible to express just how much situations like this have battered my confidence and self esteem over the years. It ironically resulted in me having a case of body dysmorphia where despite force feeding myself on the hour every hour, I was convinced I was getting skinnier by the week. Even now, I struggle to gain weight. I eat a large breakfast every morning, a lunch, two dinners, and a meal before bed all whilst snacking in between. The majority of my wages is spent on food or weight gain shakes (and would you believe in 3 months, I've only put on half a stone despite all of this). I have put myself under an insane amount of pressure to fill out because I simply can't handle the way people treat me over my frame.
When you are overweight, generally people don't seem to say remarks like "wow you eat too much!" or "you could do with losing a bit of weight!" to your face as often as a skinny person would hear it. Society kinda has "fatshaming" as a taboo where people know it's wrong to make remarks about those packing a few extra pounds, but people find it perfectly acceptable to slam those who are slim. What people fail to realise is it's got the exact same negative effects
as fatshaming and it DOES play on that person's confidence and self esteem. Even that odious "all about that base" song which is in the charts right now is all about "power to the big girls!" whilst getting a dig in at (and I quote) "skinny bitches".
Do you not think we're not already aware of how we look? That we don't feel as masculine standing next to broader, more fuller men? Or that we don't look at other women and wish we had a few more curves and less of a "boyish" frame? Most skinny people I know hate the way people speak to them about their weight. Skinny isn't always a choice, just like being a bit chunky isn't always down to being lazy or having a bad diet.
I understand it's your personal preference to like someone with a bit more meat on his bones but I really wish people opened their eyes to their views on slimmer people and stopped talking about our weight and our appearance like it was their own business.