Someone said :
Living a lie is bad for a person's mental health bad for their mental health too,
When they eventally own up to their lie , what is there to congratulate.
Its one thing trying to pass for straight ( like we dont know
) it's another to marry some poor woman to allay suspicion...
Have you not read the thread? It's not always black and white. Not everyone knows what orientation they are. And you're dead right - living a lie is terrible for a person's health but in that state people tend to make poor decisions. Some people suppress it so well that they don't even come out to themselves until it's too late.
What there is to congratulate is that they found the bravery to face the demons that they were running from for their adult life.
You make it sounds like every one of these people have full knowledge of what they're doing. For sure, some do. But I know some who absolutely did not.
It would be great if you could see the grey area in the middle rather than the two extremes of this issue.