Someone said :
I find that in the gay community, it doesn't matter at all what shape you are, there's a sub community for almost every imaginable body type.
It's the one thing we do better then "straight" folk, who seem to have their image of beauty very standardized and excluding.
You see it from the gay side of the spectrum.
The same diversity exist on the hetero-side. It is a spectrum, a continuum.
[Misc. comments on labels...]
The main reason for labels, which exist throughout the continuum, is pornography.
They help people find the kind of porn they are into. As simple as!
Some people's sexuality is skewed by pornography and fetishism, and thus they need the labels.
Most people have come to see the labels outside the pornographic context, as it has seeped into the(ir) "mainstream" culture. They do not realize the connections, and often even deny the connection. But at the end of the day, these labels are inherited from the pornographic nature of published and advertised sexuality.
As for the "standards" they are no more exclusive or standardized in the straight world than they are on the gay scene. Unless you equate straight with "ads on TV and in the magazine"...
Check out the hot male and hot female threads on Gaire, and tell me that they are truly diverse in term of standards! The scenes (gay or straight or other) are no limited to these threads, or media.
You will find all sort of fetishes all over the continuums of sexuality, sexual preferences, gender, sexual practices, etc.
What matters is not the labels you adopt, or that others stick on you: All labels peel away when things get steamy...
XL people are not my cup of tea, whether they are healthy or not.
But each to their own.
And if my husband ever get fat, it does not mean that I will stop loving him. And if I do it may be for another underlying reason: what caused him to become fat may have other consequences which could be the reason of the change of heart.