Someone said :
There are many many reasons why people move back home. The current rental situation in Ireland is grim to say the least and not all job sectors are seeing a resurgence. The scenarios the OP has come up with are bizarrely short-sighted. Why do you feel bitter and unsympathetic towards others who are struggling? Its fine if your priority is to buy or rent your own property but not everyone wants the same things.
There is no bitterness.
I think we are to used to sugar coat things to avoid offending or hurting people's feelings.
I made it clear from the start that this is not about people with special needs, or tragic circumstances. Or those who a) make it clear their goal is for it to be temporary, and thus put up with all the constraints; and b) are grateful for their luck in their misfortune, for the blessing that their parents are once more when they are no longer duty-bound to be.
Similarly I would not say that all fat people are lazy and should just eat less and exercise more! But I would not make mine all the possible excuses and outs from responsibility.
Also I said "less and less sympathy", not "more and more hate and spite". I think there is a part of them who are the share of people who always needed that security blanket, and always will.
And for those who are unable to express or feel gratefulness for reasons beyond their control, there is leeway.
But then there is a growing part of people
who do not understand (or pretend to themselves not to understand) how lucky they are to have such a security blanket, who fail to understand that their "failure to launch" or their "emergency landing" is not the fault of their landing pad.
And then who fail to kiss the ground on which their parents walk, but instead behave like teenage brats, who feel they are too old and mature to abide by a curfew, etc. All the shite they have to put up with when they go back home rent-free or rent-light...
And if I started to list all the reasons the thread does not apply to A, B or C, then everyone will find an "out" why they are not that entitled brat.
I would love to hear from some of these parents, and their experience. And their struggle with the guilt associated with being blamed for their generation's struggles. And how their generation is and has been struggling with their own demons, own issues, own depressions.
Some of them will have loved the return of the prodigal son. Some of them will have struggled with that daughter whose special needs they thought they had helped compensate enough for long enough. Will someone, please, think of the parents?
Someone said :
Its fine if your priority is to buy or rent your own property but not everyone wants the same things.
What about the parent's priority. It is fine if their objective is to support their children till after they retire [they can be either...]. But most parents deserve to have a life after their children have reached maturity (if able, etc.
Our priority, as children, is irrelevant to our parent's plans. Lest we start feeling... entitled...