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# 1 : Saturday 10-3-2018 @ 21:20
 
 
Ive tried to check the forums and cant find a related article so admin and members please forgive me if I seem rude for a possible re-post....I work in a very very competitive environment and well paid,,,and although im really happy at my job I am not at all happy at which one of us is presenting if that makes sense..I say this as I am one poerson but have naturally always lived as two for protection mostly I guess for me and those connected to me.... If I were to change job I wouldn't even begin to know where to look as in feeling safe and accepted and just fit in etc....I appreciate this is such a vague question but any advice is always welcomed you guys xxxxx Is Society in general accepting??? or am I over wishfull.xxxx
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# 2 : Sunday 11-3-2018 @ 09:32
 
 
I think people to need to accept themselves and not focus on the what other people think, no matter how beautiful and charming somebody is, there will always be people who don't like you and there will always be someone somewhere who does.
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# 3 : Sunday 11-3-2018 @ 21:04
 
 
Someone said :
I think people to need to accept themselves and not focus on the what other people think, no matter how beautiful and charming somebody is, there will always be people who don't like you and there will always be someone somewhere who does.

I agree.. Learning to accept yourself is probably the biggest battle we all face in this life.. A trick i use is imagining a Million years forwards in time.. will anything i said or done still be of any importance to anyone..? pretty doubtful.. of course you will always meet bigots & small minded people but, do not let them define you. Once you can look in the mirror & respect the person who is looking back at you then you are doing OK..

You say you have a good job in a high end industry then, i imagine you have a HR Manager. Maybe go to him/her, Sound out the company policy on Transgender employees. Take it from there..
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# 4 : Sunday 11-3-2018 @ 22:34
 
 
My three cents:
- Don't lower your standards in order to feel loved or appreciated: you will only find jerks who are using you that way.
- Before talking to HR, go online to your Intranet, and find the HR policies. It is very very likely that they are published online. Also try and see if there is an LGBTetc group. Google the name of your company and "Gay Pride", to see if they have a presence at pride. Even if they are only paying lip service to it, it is a good place to start.
- Once you have all that info, then contact HR if you have questions: they will be helpful and inclusive, and their job is to support to be yourself, so that you can be the most productive you can be. Welcome to the good side of capitalism!

(Also Google your clients and Pride: you maybe able to bring "diversity" opportunities to your company, as some firms nowadays will demand of their vendors/contractors that they have a diversity policy and are LGBTetc friendly, as much as in the past they may have started demanding that they have Health and Safety policies, or abide by SOx!
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# 5 : Monday 12-3-2018 @ 00:08
 
 
What Blah Said.. This may help also..

Video Link : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlA25tcjOcQ
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# 6 : Wednesday 21-3-2018 @ 18:08
 
 
Who knew.. Jessie James was TG..
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