It depends Chloe.
I've seen Transgender people, friends of mine, and they are lovely, typical, confidant, regular folk.
It's not a prejudice though to say that most of them suffer from extreme bouts of socially induced insecurity (or at the very least "tension") from time to time.
Not their fault; It is not a consequence of being 'Transgender' or being who they are (I feel this is an important distinction). It's a consequence of being transgender in this
Idiots and rude people might give funny looks or ask questions under their breath to their mates, or crack a smile. Now, we know they are just idiots, but as we also know, the world is FULL of idiots and rude people, and only so many transgender people.
This becomes problematic when say, considering a new job environment.
I had someone very vaguly~slighty~bully~me~but~stay~within~the~rules in a work place once because (my guess) it was obvious to them that my destiny was not with their company.
I was adequately and happily doing my job, it was a temporary contract for a month or two. I was getting on well with everyone (colleges and customers), excelling the the environment, while, frustrating for them, not fulfilling my quota of 'fearing their power' as junior manager or coming sufficiently earlier-then-I-was-due-to-start-work as a means of showing my wish to go above and beyond in the menial ways they deemed significant.
That may sound like a tangent. But the point was, they tried everything, hints, comments. Me not having shaved that day was mentioned, me being slightly forgetful was mentioned, me chatting to customers for slightly too long was mentioned, etc, etc, all my tiny foibles and eccentricities were hinted at in the snide firing line.
Imagine if they started poking at the my homosexuality? my weight? Imagine if I was transgender!?
When you change job, you always go from the devil you know, to the devil you don't know, and if you've already had a life long battle with gender identity versus "the great uneducated" and you put that on top of bumping into a cunt like that, or several of them, or gossipers, or out right Transphobic people. You could end up going to a new workplace and hating it, but because people can be both assholes and cunning, you have no way to say "I feel shit here,", without them saying something like "the new girl,guy, whatever hey are
is mental, they mustn't be right in the head" and any kind of voicing that frustration you might do, becomes evidence that yes you are paranoid and unhinged.
I don't have an answer, but I do know confidence and self belief is needed. You could simply fly on the plane of "it's actually no ones business, I'm here to work" and try keep your gender out of work entirely.
you could be up front "Right, hello I'm new, I am X person, I was born in X and moved too X, you all have 6 minutes to ask me anything you feel you need to about who I am as a person, keep the questions civil, and then we will never speak of it again as it does not concern the jobs we've been employed to do it is genuinely nice to meet all of you"
One of the most important pieces of logic though is the idea that these kinds of people, they actually don't matter. When you meet and know good people, it's so different, so much more relaxing.
It's those people; enlightened, accepting, laid back, respectful people. They're the ones we're all living for anyways, in a sense it actually doesn't matter about the rest. They have life learning to do, and it's not your job to tutor them. If you find yourself frustrated or besieged, just remember the people in your life that see the world for what it truly is; a place where you're supposed to be yourself.
Sorry for the long rambling post!