Cam rooms still seem to be really popular, do you use them, would you be upset if your boyfriend or girlfriend was having cam sex with people? Do you think it's cheating?

It is being unfaithful in all cases.
It is only cheating if it happens without their prior knowledge.

Like any form of sex outside the commited couple.
Same as writing sexually_charged letters over Air Postal services.

Never heard of cam rooms before, can you get your hole in one.?

If you consider your " hole " your hand

To clarify, can we assume that your scenario involves "finding out that they are using it", as opposed to "having discussed and maybe reluctantly accepted to allow it"?
(cheating vs unfaithfulness/non-exclusivity.

Basically virtual sex is as real as real sex.
What would be cheating in person is cheating online.
What would not be cheating in person is not more or less cheating online.

Cheating or unfaithfulness do not require carnal knowledge...

No you can't get your "hole", if you Google it, there are several websites where you can see people on cameras they are on their own.

Some people then talk to each other on Zoom or Skype, they don't meet in real life.

No. It's like porn. Besides, most partners male or female don't satisfy every sexual want. So you need to find it somewhere else. It's only natural.

Are you implying cheating is acceptable?

I don't think cheating is acceptable, I think cam is the same as porn, if they don't know the person in real life and they are in a country somewhere far away like S Africa and there is no chance of meeting in real life, it's OK

In both cases, it is "OK" if you partner knows.
IF s/he does not know, it probably means that at some level you know full well that it is not OK!

And why would you ask if it was obviousky OK?

Hi that's a good point of about people knowing, I just wanted to know what others thought of it.

You realize that so far it kind of sounds like you are just trying to justify something, in quite a Jesuistic fashion:
"I don't think cheating is acceptable...
"... therefore I will not call it 'cheating'."

You can see the points we are making, but as long as you start with the conclusion that it is OK, all you will end-up doing is justify it to yourself.

Monogamy makes no sense.

Yes.... yes I am. 150 million gazillion percent!

So you've cheated on any partners you've had and couldn't care less that you did?