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Does Ageism In Who You Find Attractive Ever Worry You?
 
# 1 : Tuesday 13-11-2018 @ 19:16
 
 
Wondering if anyone's had issues with finding "particular age bands" sexually attractive

e.g., I've never found young adults attractive.
My 'golden bracket' has always been 30~50's, even when I myself was younger.
The impracticality of it was one of the reasons staying in the closet was made easier for me until later (and more recently) in my life.
If I had been sexually active in my teens, it would have needed to be with people old enough to be my parent's friends or friend's parents, but there was never a practical or "not weird" opportunity for this to happen.

Recently, for the fist time in my life, I've started seeing people "my age" and sometimes younger as legitimately attractive, and it feels like I've grown into my age bracket at last.

I remember hearing a story of a couple, with a big age difference. The older one seemed to like people of a certain age, say, early 20's but they themselves were about 40.

What ended up happening was the older one eventually fell out of "physical love" with the younger one, as they had clearly aged and matured as the year went by matured.

So that means what? the older person needs to keep finding new 20 years old to have a 9 year relationship with and then dump them on their 30th birthday?

Obviously this is an extreme example, but I'm wondering surely once you find someone you like, them aging and getting older shouldn't be a problem.

But what if you find it is?
Are you destined for a life of loneliness searching for younger and younger partners?
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# 2 : Tuesday 13-11-2018 @ 23:14
 
 
Very interesting question, I don't fancy people older than me as they would be corpses so prefer younger, but to cling to the ideal of pederasty is a tad ludicrous, it is far more normal if you find love to stay attracted to that person for as long as that spark exists, most long term couples see only who they fell in love with and never notice their ageing, in my humble..
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# 3 : Wednesday 14-11-2018 @ 02:47
 
 
Like greenman says I always found older people more attractive. It was a bit dodgy when I was younger but now it's perfect.
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# 4 : Thursday 15-11-2018 @ 13:24
 
 
I've always been attracted to guys, older than me, although I have dated younger or same age. Understand the 9 year relationship though, I always found it funny in wanted adds " genuine 45 year old looking for serious relationship with guys between 17 and 25" It's a hard one but I guess if you love someone you just hope to make it work.
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# 5 : Tuesday 20-11-2018 @ 09:43
 
 
I am 40 but look younger and dated people that were younger then myself but looked older then me. However I draw the line at 28 as my little sister is 28 and I would find it strange.
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# 6 : Tuesday 20-11-2018 @ 16:26
 
 
If my romantic interest is half my age... they are probably 7 years too young...

That's how I see it for myself.
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# 7 : Tuesday 20-11-2018 @ 16:55
 
 
Well if I could only get a romantic interest to be fair but so far not even a look in.
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# 8 : Tuesday 20-11-2018 @ 18:17
 
 
Someone said :
If my romantic interest is half my age... they are probably 7 years too young...

That's how I see it for myself.

62 pension chaser
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# 9 : Monday 29-4-2019 @ 21:20
 
 
I was buying takeout lunch for me and my office mate today and the girl was really nice chatty, put it all together, brought me to the till to pay, there was a queue waiting to pay giving me the evils but id already handed over the money before i realised .

Then after work i went to the supermarket to pick up a few things and i was going to pay and this manager cane flying up and said he was opening a till.
He was super polite anx even packed my bag and then
I realised
Im an old dear now

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# 10 : Monday 29-4-2019 @ 21:26
 
 
Wisdom is way more attractive than flesh..
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# 11 : Wednesday 1-5-2019 @ 12:45
 
 
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