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Failed Marrige For Being Honest
 
# 16 : Friday 1-2-2019 @ 20:04
 
 
again thank you so very much indeed to everyone who has taken the time to read think and offer guidance for me,i do sincearly appreciate every ounce of it...xx
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# 17 : Saturday 2-2-2019 @ 20:53
 
 
You being transgender may have burst the bubble of her ideal life. Its not your fault, it just sounds like she is unable to adapt.
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# 18 : Sunday 3-2-2019 @ 00:17
 
 
Someone said :
You being transgender may have burst the bubble of her ideal life. Its not your fault, it just sounds like she is unable to adapt.

Unable to adapt?
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# 19 : Saturday 9-2-2019 @ 21:31
 
 
Someone said :
You being transgender may have burst the bubble of her ideal life. Its not your fault, it just sounds like she is unable to adapt.

It's important to highlight that it is not in any shape or form "her fault either".
That bubble of yours, if it exists, was not blown into a bursting state by her imagination, but by an uncountable number of minute acts from both parties and from society.

You cannot demand of people that they adapt in a few weeks, when it took the changed party decades to adapt to oneself, and some more time to share one's true self.

She cannot be looked down at for having taken what was "his word" in building a shared bubble.
She also deserves time and respect and support. She cannot turn back the clock and re-do her life as if nothing had happened.

It is not the truth she cannot cope with: it is the light it shades on the past,and the longer the shadow that light casts, the stronger the feeling and the hardest to shake off the perception of it as a "deception".

People can handle the truth, but not the feeling of being deceived.
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# 20 : Monday 11-2-2019 @ 16:06
 
 
TBF why should your wife accept it?
You definitely should be yourself but you can't expect your wife, who presumably didn't sign up to marry a transwomen, to accept it without any issues.
It may be one of those tough decisions in life where you need to start afresh, and single. You'll be happier being yourself in the long term but no one is obliged to spend their life with you if they don't want to.
As mentioned, there is support out there, such as TENI.
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