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# 1 : Thursday 17-1-2019 @ 21:17
 
 
Im a gay guy and a few years ago I started seeing this married guy. It was only meant to be a one night thing, no strings attached but he contacted me again and we met up again...and again....and again. To the stage where we were meeting on a weekly basis. It went past just random sex and we started to feel something for each other. I knew he of course would never leave his wife and in fact I didnt want him to. I liked how we had no strings fun. We became so close that we started secretly dating, meeting up and spending time with each other, not just for sex. Anyway, in the end he moved to France and it all became too difficult to continue. The problem is, I liked being in a relationship with a married man and would love to get into one again, I know its a dead end and yes I know the moral implications too regarding wives and family however I know that wont stop some feeling the need to comment below LOL Things that excite us are not always things that are acceptable. Has anyone else ever been in a long term relationship with someone married?
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# 2 : Thursday 17-1-2019 @ 22:31
 
 
You'll find plenty of people like that on apps, you could always just hookup with a single guy who is only into hookups?
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# 3 : Friday 18-1-2019 @ 02:30
 
 
Someone said :
Im a gay guy and a few years ago I started seeing this married guy. It was only meant to be a one night thing, no strings attached but he contacted me again and we met up again...and again....and again. To the stage where we were meeting on a weekly basis. It went past just random sex and we started to feel something for each other. I knew he of course would never leave his wife and in fact I didnt want him to. I liked how we had no strings fun. We became so close that we started secretly dating, meeting up and spending time with each other, not just for sex. Anyway, in the end he moved to France and it all became too difficult to continue. The problem is, I liked being in a relationship with a married man and would love to get into one again, I know its a dead end and yes I know the moral implications too regarding wives and family however I know that wont stop some feeling the need to comment below LOL Things that excite us are not always things that are acceptable. Has anyone else ever been in a long term relationship with someone married?

Oh yeah your dad, he was great btw sweet, nice to see your following in the family tradition ...
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# 4 : Friday 18-1-2019 @ 11:54
 
 
Someone said :

Oh yeah your dad, he was great btw sweet, nice to see your following in the family tradition ...

Touche!!
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# 5 : Tuesday 22-1-2019 @ 13:54
 
 
Can't you get no strings fun with a similarly inclined gay guy? It's one thing to stumble into a relationship with an attached person but to actively seek out this kind of arrangement seems cruel and inconsiderate to their partner / family. While you're having clandestine fun, they are stuck minding kids, running a household, etc.
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# 6 : Wednesday 23-1-2019 @ 13:33
 
 
Seeing a married man is not a relationship, it's simply a sordid affair.
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# 7 : Wednesday 23-1-2019 @ 17:32
 
 
As I have said in my original post, YES!! I know the moral implications too regarding wives and family and I also I know that wont stop some feeling the need to comment so thank you but I skim over your comments without really looking. Any other comments with more constructive input, from people who have actually been int the same situation, will be read and not ignored.
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# 8 : Wednesday 23-1-2019 @ 21:39
 
 
Someone said :
As I have said in my original post, YES!! I know the moral implications too regarding wives and family and I also I know that wont stop some feeling the need to comment so thank you but I skim over your comments without really looking. Any other comments with more constructive input, from people who have actually been int the same situation, will be read and not ignored.

awww, well wlcome to open forums where people can disagree with you.
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# 9 : Wednesday 23-1-2019 @ 21:52
 
 
Someone said :
awww, well wlcome to open forums where people can disagree with you.

Babes, welcome to the world where I dont give a shit LOL LOL LOL

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# 10 : Thursday 24-1-2019 @ 10:27
 
 
Someone said :
[...] will be read and not ignored.

You realize that there is no way to know if a comment is read and/or ignored.
part of course for the ones you reply to, which must have been read and were not ignored.

Likewise there is no way to know if your father slept with your secondary school best friend, or your mother with your Alma Matter sorority sisters, whilst either might have been dating one another.

As to your original question:
Has anyone else ever been in a long term relationship with someone married?

The answer is "no": they were not in a relationship worth calling it a relationship.
No more in a relationship than a fish wife is with fish knives.
Being the other woman, or the bit on the side, is not a relationship.

Your fantasy is not morally wrong (that would be too easily dismissed), it is ontologically vacant.

As long as you are comfortable with the ghost of the idea of the shadow of a relationship, then do as you please. You are not the one hurting his wife: he is.

And he is hurting you, and you yourself.
If that's your thing, don't let anyone tell you it's wrong or it's immoral or it's not done, or it's unbecoming. It may be empty, but if it is emptiness you seek, you are on the right path.
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# 11 : Thursday 24-1-2019 @ 15:30
 
 
Someone said :
As long as you are comfortable with the ghost of the idea of the shadow of a relationship, then do as you please.

Ha - well said.

Someone said :
And he is hurting you, and you yourself. If that's your thing, don't let anyone tell you it's wrong or it's immoral or it's not done, or it's unbecoming. It may be empty, but if it is emptiness you seek, you are on the right path.

I know the OP isn't concerned about the moral implications but I don't think they or anyone else pursuing this kind of relationship is entirely blameless.
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# 12 : Thursday 24-1-2019 @ 17:49
 
 
Someone said :

You realize that there is no way to know if a comment is read and/or ignored.
part of course for the ones you reply to, which must have been read and were not ignored.

Likewise there is no way to know if your father slept with your secondary school best friend, or your mother with your Alma Matter sorority sisters, whilst either might have been dating one another.

As to your original question:
The answer is "no": they were not in a relationship worth calling it a relationship.
No more in a relationship than a fish wife is with fish knives.
Being the other woman, or the bit on the side, is not a relationship.

Your fantasy is not morally wrong (that would be too easily dismissed), it is ontologically vacant.

As long as you are comfortable with the ghost of the idea of the shadow of a relationship, then do as you please. You are not the one hurting his wife: he is.

And he is hurting you, and you yourself.
If that's your thing, don't let anyone tell you it's wrong or it's immoral or it's not done, or it's unbecoming. It may be empty, but if it is emptiness you seek, you are on the right path.

Unless my mother was hiding her educational qualifications all these years, it would be hard for her to have slept with her Alma Matter sorority sisters as she never went to college however it is possible that she did have some interaction along the way as well as my father perhaps, who knows and more to the point, who cares? Good for them if it gave them a bit of joy.

You remind me of those old lifeless women, sitting at the front of a church every Sunday, saying nothing bad of course but all the time saying nothing good and spitting venom with each passing sentience. Who are you to say what a relationship is or is not? A relationship is a connection between two people, it is not limited to a formal agreement or any moral justification by those, like you who enjoy taking the moral high ground, no doubt all the time carefully pushing their own skeletons back into the closet encase anyone should see.

I thank you for your empty, meaningless comment regarding a subject you clearly have no understanding of or history with and no doubt would not want to. Not wanting to be involved in such a relationship but of course more than happy to pass judgement none the less.


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# 13 : Thursday 24-1-2019 @ 18:27
 
 
Do you think, his wife knows he is bi and letting him have his fun with her full knowledge?
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# 14 : Thursday 24-1-2019 @ 18:36
 
 
What would you do if the guy said I'm leaving the wife to move in with you, would you do a runner?
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# 15 : Thursday 24-1-2019 @ 18:43
 
 
Someone said :
What would you do if the guy said I'm leaving the wife to move in with you, would you do a runner?

No I would not. I am guessing that if he was to do that, we would have had to be in a relationship for a long time. I would be happy to discuss the future of our relationship and in fact, I would be advising him to stay in the marriage if at all possible.
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