Someone said :
Anybody here have experiences of counselling?
I myself have been getting it since I came off the drink and drugs. I find it incredibely difficult and am terrible at opening up. Is the end result good? Is it worth the effort? Anybody have their own experiences of counselling and would you recommend it?
For the record I was totaly against this and thought it was a load of shite but I have defo changed my mind about it all since then.
The key is probably to find a counselor who shares the same neurosis as you do.
For instance, Freud was all about sex and controlling women, while some of his disciples branched out because their own neurosis were linked to dreams or to piss.
So expect the first counselor to be a trial run, to find out more about the various psychological and psychoanalytical theories, find the one you can connect to: if you believe in it, is is more likely to work, even if it is horse-shit.
The talking, asking and accepting help, listening, being listened to, and getting a different perspective is 90% of the work.
The healing comes with the trusting you can heal. That last 10% bit is the one that may require a bit of switching between practictioners. It is also in that last 10% zone that you have to be careful not to end up with a cult!