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# 1 : Sunday 12-5-2019 @ 11:20
 
 
Anybody here have experiences of counselling?
I myself have been getting it since I came off the drink and drugs. I find it incredibely difficult and am terrible at opening up. Is the end result good? Is it worth the effort? Anybody have their own experiences of counselling and would you recommend it?

For the record I was totaly against this and thought it was a load of shite but I have defo changed my mind about it all since then.
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# 2 : Sunday 12-5-2019 @ 18:33
 
 
I've always been a believer in 'know your own Mind'.. Don't let anyone tell you what or who you should be or be not..
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# 3 : Sunday 12-5-2019 @ 22:12
 
 
Someone said :
Anybody here have experiences of counselling?
I myself have been getting it since I came off the drink and drugs. I find it incredibely difficult and am terrible at opening up. Is the end result good? Is it worth the effort? Anybody have their own experiences of counselling and would you recommend it?

For the record I was totaly against this and thought it was a load of shite but I have defo changed my mind about it all since then.

The key is probably to find a counselor who shares the same neurosis as you do.

For instance, Freud was all about sex and controlling women, while some of his disciples branched out because their own neurosis were linked to dreams or to piss.

So expect the first counselor to be a trial run, to find out more about the various psychological and psychoanalytical theories, find the one you can connect to: if you believe in it, is is more likely to work, even if it is horse-shit.

The talking, asking and accepting help, listening, being listened to, and getting a different perspective is 90% of the work.
The healing comes with the trusting you can heal. That last 10% bit is the one that may require a bit of switching between practictioners. It is also in that last 10% zone that you have to be careful not to end up with a cult!
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# 4 : Monday 13-5-2019 @ 22:11
 
 
Interesting Blah very interesting....
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# 5 : Monday 13-5-2019 @ 22:41
 
 
how did you feel when you were drunk or on drugs? how did you make those around you feel? did you cause pain to yourself and others then or the positive feelings/emotions? A change for better is good. I would stick to counselling. I had it in the past. Changes are not easy. Good luck
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# 6 : Monday 13-5-2019 @ 23:43
 
 
I attended counseling in out house and thought it was really helpful.
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# 7 : Tuesday 14-5-2019 @ 03:41
 
 
Thanks for the replies.
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# 8 : Tuesday 14-5-2019 @ 10:47
 
 
I found meditation helpful, but each to their own.
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# 9 : Tuesday 14-5-2019 @ 17:27
 
 
There is no doubt that a great wealth of knowledge about the human condition has been formulated & handed down through a succession of philosophers/psychologists/psychotherapists and that this information can be useful in helping you cope with the madness that is life/existence and the existential conundrums it presents but, ultimately, no one can truly know your mind. We all have our dark side that we struggle with and ultimately only you can fix it, no one else. I really do believe that life is a test and if you manage to survive the darkness & see through all the horror, then we can all have a really positive influence on the existence of others..
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# 10 : Tuesday 14-5-2019 @ 17:46
 
 
Someone said :
I've always been a believer in 'know your own Mind'.. Don't let anyone tell you what or who you should be or be not..

Nobody is suggesting otherwise.
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# 11 : Tuesday 14-5-2019 @ 18:30
 
 
And sadly, the desire for class A never truly goes away.. Always there.. Can be beaten though & life is better without them..
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# 12 : Friday 17-5-2019 @ 17:55
 
 
Someone said :
I attended counseling in out house and thought it was really helpful.

That's good to know. Would you not find it embarrassing to see your counselor when you are on a night out? It could even get messy
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# 13 : Friday 17-5-2019 @ 18:18
 
 
Someone said :

That's good to know. Would you not find it embarrassing to see your counselor when you are on a night out? It could even get messy

Fook that’s a thought.

On your question... it’s almost unanswerable by anyone else. It might be for you or not. I would say open yourself to it.... if there are times when it’s useless to you, there might also be times when it’s not.... the process might be better at a different stage in whatever you’re going through.

Also remember that a) some of them are good, some bad and b) even with a “good” one, you and them might be on different wavelengths. Bad experiences mightn’t mean there’s not good help out there. But also it’s not demanded that you find a person you can get on with, so if you feel a counseling route isn’t your road, that’s fine.

So my advice is... erm... make up your own mind . But ignore people who try to make it sound like an absolute bad or good.
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# 14 : Friday 17-5-2019 @ 18:29
 
 
That should be said to all, who seek it and have them understand the mechanics of it.
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# 15 : Friday 17-5-2019 @ 18:32
 
 
Someone said :
Fook that’s a thought.

On your question... it’s almost unanswerable by anyone else. It might be for you or not. I would say open yourself to it.... if there are times when it’s useless to you, there might also be times when it’s not.... the process might be better at a different stage in whatever you’re going through.

Also remember that a) some of them are good, some bad and b) even with a “good” one, you and them might be on different wavelengths. Bad experiences mightn’t mean there’s not good help out there. But also it’s not demanded that you find a person you can get on with, so if you feel a counseling route isn’t your road, that’s fine.

So my advice is... erm... make up your own mind . But ignore people who try to make it sound like an absolute bad or good.

Very nicely put streetfigher.
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