Someone said :
If people want to be better in relationships all they have to do is stop using "Currency" when there is an argument, currency is things like saying "Yeah but what about that time you did XXXX?" or "you forget I did XXXX for you that one time!". Besides infidelity it is one of the biggest killer of a relationship, to use something from the past as a form of blackmail or to win an argument because if you are still together for anything over a month after any event and you haven't brought it up and dealt with it by then you lose the right to bring it up 3 years later otherwise you what you are doing is saving it up to spend at a later date and that's why I call it currency.
It absolutely decimates relationships because if you have an argument and use currency then you are not dealing with the current reason for the argument, what you are doing is using the current argument to deal with past arguments so then not only does it explode but the reason for the current argument is ignored and then that too gets filed under "Currency" too and that then is also used at a later date to throw into the other persons face. It's a vicious circle that so many couples get into and they end up hating each other because of it.
Your other half crashes the car and you say "Ok just forget it we'll get it fixed" and then 8 months later you go out on the piss and burn the kitchen down, you do not have the right to say "Ahh for fuck sake I didn't say anything when you crashed the car did I?" you should have dealt with it then not now.
Your other half goes to a work Christmas party and gets a bit drunk and kisses a co-worker and feels guilty the next day and tells you about it and you forgive them and move on, a year later you decide that it would be a good idea to spend a months mortgage payments to disappear on a weekend binge with your mates you do not have the right to justify it with "I fucking said nothing when you were with someone else last year did I?" you should have dealt with it then.
If anything is known by both parties in a relationship and has been talked about and still hasn't broken you up a month later then it is no longer "Currency" to spend at a later date
Could be why women make the best archaeologists as they like nothing better than digging up the fucking past