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Valentine 2021: How To Be A Better Lover
 
# 1 : Thursday 21-1-2021 @ 14:50
 
 
How do you plan to be a better lover this year?
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# 2 : Thursday 21-1-2021 @ 18:18
 
 
Nothing wrong with last year
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# 3 : Thursday 21-1-2021 @ 18:34
 
 
I don't, I'm happily single and staying that way. I've become completely numb to the whole relationship/love thing lately
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# 4 : Thursday 21-1-2021 @ 19:46
 
 
Someone said :
I don't, I'm happily single and staying that way. I've become completely numb to the whole relationship/love thing lately

Me Too, people are too much work and not worth it.
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# 5 : Thursday 21-1-2021 @ 19:51
 
 
Someone said :

Me Too, people are too much work and not worth it.

Yeah that's exactly it, I'm just not arsed to be dealing with other people's emotional baggage anymore, it's just too much work for very little gain
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# 6 : Thursday 21-1-2021 @ 19:57
 
 
I'll try and listen less, but really listen.
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# 7 : Thursday 21-1-2021 @ 22:27
 
 
If people want to be better in relationships all they have to do is stop using "Currency" when there is an argument, currency is things like saying "Yeah but what about that time you did XXXX?" or "you forget I did XXXX for you that one time!". Besides infidelity it is one of the biggest killer of a relationship, to use something from the past as a form of blackmail or to win an argument because if you are still together for anything over a month after any event and you haven't brought it up and dealt with it by then you lose the right to bring it up 3 years later otherwise you what you are doing is saving it up to spend at a later date and that's why I call it currency.

It absolutely decimates relationships because if you have an argument and use currency then you are not dealing with the current reason for the argument, what you are doing is using the current argument to deal with past arguments so then not only does it explode but the reason for the current argument is ignored and then that too gets filed under "Currency" too and that then is also used at a later date to throw into the other persons face. It's a vicious circle that so many couples get into and they end up hating each other because of it.

Examples:

Your other half crashes the car and you say "Ok just forget it we'll get it fixed" and then 8 months later you go out on the piss and burn the kitchen down, you do not have the right to say "Ahh for fuck sake I didn't say anything when you crashed the car did I?" you should have dealt with it then not now.

Your other half goes to a work Christmas party and gets a bit drunk and kisses a co-worker and feels guilty the next day and tells you about it and you forgive them and move on, a year later you decide that it would be a good idea to spend a months mortgage payments to disappear on a weekend binge with your mates you do not have the right to justify it with "I fucking said nothing when you were with someone else last year did I?" you should have dealt with it then.

If anything is known by both parties in a relationship and has been talked about and still hasn't broken you up a month later then it is no longer "Currency" to spend at a later date
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# 8 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 03:17
 
 
I'm being asexual for the year I think people aren't worth the drama
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# 9 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 12:11
 
 
Someone said :
If people want to be better in relationships all they have to do is stop using "Currency" when there is an argument, currency is things like saying "Yeah but what about that time you did XXXX?" or "you forget I did XXXX for you that one time!". Besides infidelity it is one of the biggest killer of a relationship, to use something from the past as a form of blackmail or to win an argument because if you are still together for anything over a month after any event and you haven't brought it up and dealt with it by then you lose the right to bring it up 3 years later otherwise you what you are doing is saving it up to spend at a later date and that's why I call it currency.

It absolutely decimates relationships because if you have an argument and use currency then you are not dealing with the current reason for the argument, what you are doing is using the current argument to deal with past arguments so then not only does it explode but the reason for the current argument is ignored and then that too gets filed under "Currency" too and that then is also used at a later date to throw into the other persons face. It's a vicious circle that so many couples get into and they end up hating each other because of it.

Examples:

Your other half crashes the car and you say "Ok just forget it we'll get it fixed" and then 8 months later you go out on the piss and burn the kitchen down, you do not have the right to say "Ahh for fuck sake I didn't say anything when you crashed the car did I?" you should have dealt with it then not now.

Your other half goes to a work Christmas party and gets a bit drunk and kisses a co-worker and feels guilty the next day and tells you about it and you forgive them and move on, a year later you decide that it would be a good idea to spend a months mortgage payments to disappear on a weekend binge with your mates you do not have the right to justify it with "I fucking said nothing when you were with someone else last year did I?" you should have dealt with it then.

If anything is known by both parties in a relationship and has been talked about and still hasn't broken you up a month later then it is no longer "Currency" to spend at a later date

Could be why women make the best archaeologists as they like nothing better than digging up the fucking past
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# 10 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 12:36
 
 
Someone said :

Could be why women make the best archaeologists as they like nothing better than digging up the fucking past

Was that a dig at the new Netflix series "the dig"?
Based on a true story, "The Dig" retells the story of how a widow and a self-taught archaeologist unearthed an Anglo-Saxon burial ship on a private plot of land in Suffolk, UK, in 1939.

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# 11 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 14:01
 
 
Someone said :

Could be why women make the best archaeologists as they like nothing better than digging up the fucking past

Beat you silly with it, but don't you dare do the same and you need to get over it?
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# 12 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 14:04
 
 
But that is not specified to women, is it?
More of a generic pro-active-passive-aggressive trait.
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# 13 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 14:07
 
 
Someone said :
But that is not specified to women, is it?
More of a generic pro-active-passive-aggressive trait.

Men, tend to get over a fight and move on. Women will hold it against you forever. Most do, some don't.
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# 14 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 14:32
 
 
Someone said :

Men, tend to get over a fight and move on. Women will hold it against you forever. Most do, some don't.

Sorry that the people in your life are stereotypes...
I have come across as many make as female drama queens. ( Now is your chance to point out that queens are female figures )
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# 15 : Friday 22-1-2021 @ 14:44
 
 
Someone said :
How do you plan to be a better love this year?

I will be less critical.
I tend to jump to criticism mode, in general...
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