Sheeben - It was just a matter of letting her know who i really am, and that i'm not any different because i have a girlfriend rather than a boyfriend
Good for you. On another point, I wouldn’t be too concerned about the fact that she is wary of discussing it with friends at this stage. She’s coming to terms with it herself so that sort of thing usually comes with time.
I honestly don’t think you can explain the feeling of being accepted by your family as being gay when you come out. It’s one of those things you have to experience yourself. Some people have a remarkably easy time of it but most become anxious beforehand. I knew one guy who was worried sick and when he grasped the nettle, his four brothers actually threw a party for him which proves how wrong he was. They obviously suspected already and there was more than him relieved. That’s not to say there isn’t the odd horror story but for the most part, family is family and while it may rise a bit of dust initially, something so trivial as a gay member will never damage life long bonds. If anything the openness it brings means people grow closer rather than driving them apart.